toxic parents :(

i’m 21 living with my mom. my moms very strict and a while ago she had told me if i started helping with the bills she would be less strict with me. well the other day she had asked me for a lot of money to pay off some bills and i gave it to her no questions asked. today i had plans to go out with my friends at night and as i was leaving my mom had told me no and that she doesn’t trust me and that i’m not responsible enough. mind you my brothers have been living their lives way before 20 years old and they never had to deal with my mom and dad and one of my brothers didn’t even have to pay my mom for anything. i got mad when she told me i couldn’t stay out late and told her abt what she said a while ago abt how she would stop acting this way if i help with the bills and she told me she never said that. so now i’m stuck with 50% of my savings gone and i no longer have enough to move out. i know, stupid move. my best bet is to move out even though my dad would probably stop paying for my college but i’m so tired of being manipulated and having to put my life on hold for the sake of my parents and their need to control me. i feel depressed living here but i can’t leave until i get a better paying job. but what should i do in the mean time because i’m tired of constantly being treated like a kid when i’m obviously not. i’m financially independent, i’m going to work and school and the only thing i ask is for some freedom and they never give it to me but my mom always takes whatever she wants from me. it feels so one sided. everyone tells me to just say fuck it and do what i want because it’s not like they’re respecting me as a person but i know if i do that and shit hits the fan, nobody’s gonna be there to help me. i guess i just gotta take that risk, right?