Pills and drinking..

I’ve been married ten years. We’ve been together almost twenty... high school sweethearts.

We have FIVE beautiful children. Ages 16-2.

We’ve been through hell and back. Ups and downs. Our childhoods were both insane and full of drug use from our parents and then continued in for a short period in both our teens until we became parents around the age of 18 & 20. He’s always had a drinking problem. About two years ago we went through a series of back to back losses in the family (his side) and his life kinda spiraled downhill in the sense of him drinking really bad and then using prescription pain pills. He’s a WONDERFUL provider for our family while I’m a SAHM.

Problem is, I am very unhappy. I don’t trust him at all. He’s promised he’s not using pills anymore but refuses to stop drinking and says he ain’t ready. I know the grass isn’t always greener in the other side and people deal with grieving in many ways but we are adults and I’m over the drinking and chaos it brings to our life.

Just REALLY need some advice.

He refuses counseling as well, he doesn’t “believe” in it.