So I sent out a lovely text that I will attach, letting people know about visits and what will be expected after baby. I also added for my brother and his girlfriend that her 6 year old won't be able to hold the baby until she's older and has better head control. They had a baby and she's a year old now but when she was younger he'd hold her and her head would bounce around and when he'd get tired of holding her he'd just stand up and take his hands off her. So I just added a part that said to make him aware that he won't be holding her anytime soon. I thought it was nicely written. And apparently she's in her feelings all mad about the text and won't address me about it. Why do people make it all about them when YOU have a baby 😂🙄

The texts:

Hey, just wanting to go ahead and send this for whenever the baby is here. But for the first couple of weeks we are going to have only the grandparents visiting. We want to give baby girl time to adjust to life and being home with us, and give us time to adjust to life with her. This is also because of all the sickness going on and it coming up on RSV and flu season. After this of course we don't mind you wanting to meet her :) however, because of our wishes and basic hygiene, lol, we do ask that no one kisses the baby. She has no immune system and won't have all her vaccines yet. We thank you ahead of time for understanding. We know everyone's excited to meet our girl, but we are the most :)

Also, wanted to let you know so that you can tell him ahead of time. But we want her to be a couple of months or so before (name removed) holds her since she'll be so little and fragile. And make sure to let him know about no kissing as well :)