Pregnant and 21, family mad at me

I’m in college and last night I found out that I’m pregnant for my boyfriend’s child. I told my dad that I’m pregnant and at first he was understanding and gentle. About an hour later he starts yelling at me and saying how much I fucked up. I already know how much I fucked up and I feel so shitty for being a burden. I feel like a terrible daughter, but I don’t need him to make me feel worse. Last night I stayed up all night silently crying because I’m so terrified of my future. I can’t get rid of my child, I don’t have the guts to do that, and my parents wouldn’t want me to either but I just feel even more shitty because they’re mad at me. I’m just trying to look at things positively because if I don’t, I’ll just fall back into a dark place.

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You’re 21 not 18 and you did a thing that happens to everyone but you did it as an adult on the right path. As a mom I would not be mad at that. If any of my kids told me at 21 in college they were pregnant.Give them a bit to calm down but they should be on your side with this in the end.

Te

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Focus your energy on what matters MOST & that’s your health; as it pertains to your child’s health. Mentally, physically, and emotionally pregnancy is a lot on the brain and body!! Like you said, you don’t need anyone coming down on you or making you feel worse than you already do. What’s done is done 🤷🏽‍♀️ I’m 20 and had the WORLD in my hands before pregnancy. I had/have scholarships, a trade that made me great money & were trying to launch a business (AND DID) YOUR LIFE IS NOTTT OVER !! You are simply reaching your peak in what will be your greatest motivator and blessing❤️ if you believe give it God the rest will be as it should!! And congratulations if no one told you ✨

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They will get used to the idea. Give it time. You're an adult and its not the end of your life. You can still accomplish so much.

De

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I was in the same situation as you but I was 20 and and had my daughter at 21. It was super hard to tell them and they were super disappointed in me I cried so much and felt horrible. But trust me when I say they will come around. My parents are so close to my daughter now and always tell me they can't believe they were upset. It took a little but but they did come around. Try not to let it steal your joy you have a little life inside of you that will call you mommy. Your life will be even better with the baby I promise 😁

De

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Yes they are disappointed.. but if you want your baby you would just have to look past that fact. In the end they should hopefully come around.

j

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They’ll come around, don’t worry! They’re upset now but once you’re further along and your baby comes they’ll be super happy.