Hey girls. So, before I write this I just want to say that it’s my fault and I shouldn’t have snooped, because I did and I’ll admit to that. I just don’t know what to do now.

So I have been staying with my sister for a little over a month now, I just got out of a relationship and I’m waiting for an apartment to be ready at the end of this month. Anyways, I love my sister. She’s 3 years older (I’m 21, she’s 24). She has been super nice to me since I’ve moved in, packing me lunches, letting me borrow her clothes and putting up with my mess.

The “problem” is with her boyfriend. She treats him like shit. I’m in no place to judge or say that I know how to make a relationship work, but she’s actually rude guys. Like, he’ll come home from work and not be hungry for dinner and she’ll instantly catch an attitude and be like “oh so you’re not hungry? Well why not? You knew I was making this. Why did I make this for you then?” And just be really snappy over little things. I don’t think I’ve heard her say I love you in a few weeks since I’ve been staying here. It makes me really sad. Her boyfriend is really nice and soft spoken. She has anxiety, and I think she gets depressed sometimes because she has gained some weight since high school. (They’ve been together since she was 14 and he was 17).

Anyways, the Monday at work he texted me and asked if I could stay the night somewhere else sometime soon, because they had things they needed to talk about and she won’t talk about them unless I’m not there. I’m seeing this guy at work, so I just stayed at his place Monday night.

I come home Tuesday, and he’s in the spare room alone. He yelled at her for something and she yelled back and then my sister and I ate dinner. He didn’t come out, he was writing in the spare room. I asked her if she was okay, she said no. I tried getting her to open up but she wouldn’t. So I turned on our fav show and we watched it for a little while. Then she said she was going to go talk to him. They yelled. I heard both of them screaming, it’s none of my business though. So I went outside for a little while. She texted me and told me she was going to bed around 8:30.

So now it’s the morning. I’m sleeping on the couch, I woke up and he was in the shower and my sister was sleeping. Now this is the part that’s my fault, I went to the kitchen to make some coffee and noticed that the spare room was open, and his notebooks were there. I walked over and read one of the pages.

It was like a diary. Very clear and articulated. It started off with “we didn’t break up, something that always happens happened again...” anyways, he basically said that he’s really unhappy with her. He said that she’s the only one he’s loved since high school but he said he gets treated like shit. And she always has an attitude with him. Then I read “I know I’m going to have to fuck someone else.” And then at the end I read “she needs to learn to treat autistic people with more respect.”

So apparently he has autism, and it actually makes sense. In no way, shape, or form am I judging him, or even her. I think they just need to figure their shit out. It just makes me sad, and I don’t know what to do moving forward.

And it makes sense. Their relationship is not healthy, I feel it. I have never lived with them before so I didn’t know how bad it was. Now living with them I see it’s really bad. She’s just really rude and acts like she doesn’t care if he leaves her or not, she probably doesn’t even have a clue. And he’s just depressed, but still being nice to her. I don’t know what to do going forward. It’s none of my business and I don’t want to start drama that has nothing to do with me. I am just staying here and am extremely grateful for both of them. What do you guys think I should do, if anything?