Husband Rant
Ok honestly I just need to rant about my husband and I have nowhere else to do it, so here I am š
My husband is driving me insane and I canāt tell if itās just pregnancy hormones or if heās actually the dumbest human in existence. I spend ALL DAY taking care of our June baby and trying to keep up with the house, but at this point I can barely pick stuff up off the ground without my legs giving out from sciatica (not to mention the watermelon strapped to my stomach). He comes home, eats dinner (that I make) and then bathes the baby and puts him to bed (while I clean the kitchen usually). Our baby is super easy to put down so this isnāt a huge task, but I am definitely appreciative. The thing that drives me crazy is that after he puts the baby down he just flops down on the couch and watches tv or plays video games until he goes to bed.
Thereās ALWAYS crap on the floor, table, bathroom etc. and I clean all of it while he just sits there. He did NOT used to be this bad, but idk what switched off in his brain cause he is NOT HELPFUL. Being pregnant and nesting, our house is driving me crazy and he barely helps. His two jobs are laundry and trash, and heās never once finished the laundry without leaving the clothes In the dryer, and lately Iāve been taking out the trash because he says itās ānot fullā when it is.
Besides that, weāve had boxes in our bedroom for weeks that need to go to storage, things that I had to take to goodwill because he never got around to it, and Iām pretty sure heās never used a broom or mop in his life (ok, since we moved in here in March).
He also complains about how fat he is ALL THE TIME but heās SO LAZY and wonāt go to the gym. I canāt do it for him, so Iām literally at a loss. I make him only healthy foods for dinner, but thatās all I can do.
Totally aside from this, Iām also very frustrated that he has put zero effort into our relationship lately and doesnāt even treat me like his wife anymore. I think the last time he hugged or kissed me was like MONTHS AGO. I canāt even remember when, itās been so long. Idk if heās scared because Iāve been so grumpy/emotional this pregnancy or if heās just not into me anymore.
Anyway, if youāve made it this far congratulations š wish I could give you a prize or something.
If you want to offer any advice on this: How do I tell him heās a lazy slob without being a total bitch or him thinking that Iām just hormonal??? I can only imagine how much worse things are going to get when the baby comes if he doesnāt kick his ass into gear. Like honestly at this point Iāve considered if itād be easier to just take care of the babies on my own. At least Iād only be picking up after 2 and not 3 š
Achieve your health goals from period to parenting.