I feel broken. Anyone have any positive outcomes or advice? 😕

My husband is my best friend and we get a long so great. I love him more than anything. We have a 2 year old and a 3 week old together. He’s really the most incredible man I’ve ever known. I have had some hormonal issues since our daughter was born 2 years ago and have had no sex drive for a long time. I had started to seek help for it and before I went to my appointment, I found out I was pregnant with number 2. I started to feel it agin toward the end of this pregnancy. Meanwhile my husband was patient and so kind. He was frustrated though and he told me. And we talked openly about how I felt like something was wrong with me because I just didn’t want sex like I used to. He told me several times that he needed more from me, even for me to be affectionate with him, but my depression got the best of me. We still got along great and rarely argued bc we just communicate well. I was finally starting to feel like my old self again at the beginning of the summer and was going to try and talk to him about it all and then the summer hit us....

So this summer he was gone a lot for work. Just had out of town jobs that led him to be gone for a week at a time to different places. Following that little stretch, he had to go for 3 weeks to the army for training. Then school started and we found out my stepdaughter 8 had COVID and we had to quarantine, but in separate rooms bc he didn’t want me and our daughter to get sick while he took care of the 8 year old. So that was 2 weeks then a hurricane hit and he was called up to go do relief for that for the Army. Meanwhile, I was told I had to be induced on September 1st and our son was born and he had to go back to the army when I was released, and now here we are. He hasn’t been able to call as much because there isn’t great service in the area where the storm hit and he’s working a lot. So I’ve been texting him and stuff. But last night he FaceTimes and I could tell something was wrong and he said he just had a lot on his mind and I asked what and he said we needed to talk about it when he got back (in 8 days). Of course that freaked me out because don’t tell a girl “we need to talk” and expect her not to freak out. So I asked if it was something I needed to worry about and he just repeated that we needed to talk. Finally he answered me and said that he loves me so much and I’m his best friend but he’s not IN love with me anymore. And that he wanted to tell me now before he had to go away on deployment for a year. (He has to leave next month) He said he was trying so hard for our kids, but he didn’t think it was fair to us to keep going. I was totally shocked because even though things weren’t the best a while ago with the sex and everything, I thought they had gotten better and we were getting back to normal. I just feel so lost. I want to go to marriage counseling and I can’t imagine my life without him. I just don’t know what to do. I know he loves me and I know he still feels things for me because I just know. Things that we’ve talked about recently and plans that we’ve made just in the last few weeks. I don’t know if he’s having a freak out about the deployment or something? But I just need someone to tell me that there’s hope. Anyone’s marriage survive something like this? I love him so much. 💔