Feeling down

Okay so we ended up telling my mom me and my partners are expecting baby #2 they weren’t as happy as I thought they would be. Our first is about to be 2 and I’m already scared cause I don’t want no body thinking I leaving out my first child! But also my mom said no baby shower or nothing.... I said what if it’s a girl and she doesn’t wanna have a baby shower at all... I was wanting one either way. Idk kinda just feeling down