Is he just a thoughtful f**k buddy or is he starting to catch feelings??

This is a long post and it’s continued in the comments!! But if you end up reading all the way through please let me know what you think!!

Okay. So before I start I realize that just asking my fb straight up is going to get me the best answer. However, as someone who frequently jumps to conclusions and has to pretty regularly manage my expectations, I just want to know what other people have experienced in their fb relationships, and if this indicative of potential to be more. This is my first fb I’ve ever had, so i wasn’t quite sure what to expect or what kind of “rules” I should be following. So, the I initially I had matched this guy on bumble, and for whatever reason never messaged him. Never thought about him again until about a week later I saw his profile on tinder, I swiped right and we matched. He messaged me first and we started talking. The next day I was more in the mood than normal and asked him what he was doing and ended up making plans to meet at his place later that night. Fast forward and we’re at his place and talking and getting to know each other and at which point I made a comment and he lets me know that he doesn’t have the time for a relationship and whatever we’re doing is all he will have time for, and then proceeded to have pretty fantastic sex, which unfortunately was cut short after we needed to use a little lube that ended up burning me so I had to take a shower. After some cuddling and talking he asks if I’m staying the night or if I would like to. Not sure in that moment I just kind of brush it off and as it gets later I ask end up asking if he’s sure it’s okay if I were to say and he says that it is and he’d love that. So he cuddles me and starts just kind of rubbing his hand over my body until I’m asleep and then rolls over and goes to sleep himself. The next morning we both get up for work and he walks me to my car. He kisses me goodbye, hugs me, and tells me he wants to see me again. I definitely wanted to see him again so I told him I’d like that. Fast forward to me at work and we’re messaging and then end up making plans to meet up the next night. Next day rolls around, I double check to make sure we’re still on and as he was busy with work he says yes but won’t get off until later (work from home, big project due) he needs up messaging me when he’s done, apologizing for working so late and says he would love to see me. So I go over and we’re talking and then he lets me know that he’s got a towel set out just for me to shower later if I needed to. I thought it was super sweet. After a bit he asks if I’ve eaten yet, I tell him I had earlier and I wasn’t very hungry but tell him I’ll go with him to get food since he hadn’t eaten in hours. We walk to this little restaurant and he buys me food anyway just so he doesn’t feel bad for eating if I’m not. We get back and I eat a few bites and we talk some then we have our sex and then end up talking and cuddling for hours and at one point mentions that we should drive around the area at a later time to look at these really amazing houses he was showing me pictures of. Around the same time he just asks, you are staying right? I tell him yeah i can. So after we get ready to go to bed and we set our alarms for the morning. When we wake up he kisses me good morning and well you know where that led. So after that I leave and go meet my family. Throughout the day he messages me and asks how my day went. Then after that I don’t hear for a couple days. When I do he just asks how I and what I’m up to (middle of the day). We go back and forth snapping for a while and he asks me about things we talked about the last time we met. eventually I ask what hes doing that night. He says he had just finished work that day (like 10 pm) is going to get food and go to bed. Shame. Then I don’t hear from him for a few days. When he does finally HMU it’s a little before 9 pm and he apologizes for being MIA, hes been working on another project, asks how I’m doing, how I’ve been. I just tell him I’ve been working and stressed a little. He tells me he’s sorry I feel that way, that he thinks I’m a sweet girl and hates that I feel like that. Eventually we make plans for me go over to his place (I have 3 roommates and he lives by himself so I go over there- this was just a few nights ago) he meets me at my car and he greets me with kisses and smiles and says he’s glad I’m there. So we go up to his apartment and he asks me again how I’m doing and why I’m feeling so stressed while we’re standing in his kitchen just kind of holding each other and talking. So I tell him and then he proceeds to offer to help me and show me a number of different things that would help me at my work so I wouldn’t be so stressed. I’m thinking it’s super sweet and say I would love that. He’s also got these LED lights that I love hanging in his room and had bought three strands but only ended up needing two and offers to give me the third just because I like them. I decline simply because they’re his, I don’t want to take them...and the fact I had been reading rules other women had set for their fb and not giving or receiving gifts was one of them.. as it could lead to confusion or complications. So he says okay and they’ll be there if I want them (the time before that when I was over and he put them up for the first time, he said he would probably just return the 3rd strand since he wasn’t going to use it) so then we decide to walk down to this little restaurant to pick up food for him since he hadn’t really eaten yet but I had eaten before I got there and without question this time just walks next to me and holds my hand. So we get the food, head back and he eats and we talk. When he’s finished he brushes his teeth and we start to do our thing and I get up to the pee first. When I come out I make the comment that he should really get soap for his bathroom (as a 20 something bachelor he only has one thing of soap that he uses for everything in his kitchen lol). He agrees and tells me he’ll pick some up soon. We do our thing and afterwards he tells me he’s going to start the shower for me, so I go and get ready to get in the shower when he brings me the towel he has for me and as I’m about to grab it says well, wait do you want me to leave it in the dryer and then bring it to you when you’re done so it stays warm? I tell him it’s okay I won’t be long anyway. So I get in and just rinse off really quick, dry off and crawl into bed with him. I start to stretch my back and rub a knot I’ve got, and he just kind of takes over and asks where it hurts and starts massaging my back. A little while it starts to hurt (no lotion or oil just skin on skin and it started to burn) and he apologizes. I lay back down and for some reason feel the need to comment on the fact that he needs to get himself a bath mat before he slips in his bathroom and dies (super slick tile when wet) he agrees again, says he used to and just hadn’t gotten around to getting a new one since he threw the other one out) and then proceeds to make a list, soap for the bathroom, a bath mat, lotion for the next time I’m over so he can get the knot in my back out, and some new body wash for me, and makes a joke about me probably not wanting to use his - a 3 in 1 body wash (lol again 20 something bachelor but at least he has separate shampoo and conditioner!) and then says if there’s anything else you think I need or you want to have for when you’re here, just let me know and I’ll pick it up for you and I won’t be offended if you ask for something lol. As we were talking I mentioned how I wish I would’ve just messaged him on bumble earlier, and he says yeah, we could have this weeks ago. I say yes but luckily we matched on tinder and you messaged me. He says yeah, funny how life works out, huh. By that time it was getting late so we go to bed. And I start to think and overthink and he can tell and asks me what I’m thinking about and to tell him what’s going on in my head I tell him nothing, its fine. He mentions that most people don’t just stare at the ceiling for no reason and asks if I want to tell him. I tell him not really, and he doesn’t push it any further. The next he gets up with his alarm but decides last minute to sleep in. And tells me that’s the best he had in a while when I wake up. We cuddle for a while and then I get up and get ready to go. He walks me to my car and then asks if I just want to get ready there ( had mentioned I brought a change of clothes for work- I didn’t take them in bc I didn’t want to seem assumptive and planned to just change in the car at work) so I go back up and change and when I get done he makes the comment that I looked super cute and that it definitely woke him up. He walks me to my car and I leave. When I get to work I let him know I made it ( I commute a fairly good distance) he says he’s glad, hopes I have a good day, and that he was really glad he got to see me. I respond then he snaps back and asks me what I sent, bc he opened it but got distracted and it was gone when he looked back, so I send it again and he opened and that was that. Haven’t heard from him since he opened it yesterday.