This is babe #3 for us and we decided to go team green since we already have a boy and a girl. It truly doesn’t matter to us what this babe is so at my 20 week scan we said we didn’t want to know. It’s now been two weeks and I really regret not finding out. I have a history of miscarriages so the whole first trimester I was really struggling with being attached to the pregnancy. I thought as we got farther along things would be ok but I still found myself just worried something is going to go wrong. Now that I’ve had my 20 week scan and we seen baby is as healthy as can be I’ve been feeling much better but now I’m struggling with connecting with baby. We have a boys name and a girls name chosen but I just don’t feel that personal connection I felt with my other two when we knew who they were. I can’t call this baby my boy/girl and by name and so to me it’s just baby which has no personal connection for me. Mamas that have been team green have you felt this way? Does it get better? Is waiting till birth worth it? I’m just picturing this grand moment at birth when we finally know but I’m wondering if I’m expecting too much. I have a friend that’s told me finding out in delivery was no different to her then finding out early with her second and that she found the birth one to be more overwhelming because in that moment all she could think about was gender specific things she needed and wanted. She’s the only one I know who’s been team green so I don’t have any other opinions to go buy. We are struggling on if we should book a private scan to find out or if I should just try to relax and wait till birth. What would you do? We have 17 weeks left till our section date. By my next appointment we will only have 15 weeks left. Which really isn’t that long so I feel we should just suck it up and wait.