Sleepovers

**EDIT**

As many have mentioned, yes I am an adult and yes I know I should be able to do things when I want. However this is the situation I am in and I do not imagine them requiring me to ask permission will change until I have moved out. I have been helping with the bills for the past year but am still required to ask permission. The fact that I can do adult things as long as it benefits them is quite clear. I will need to move out to be a complete adult by their standards.

I just want help knowing how we ask my parents to let me stay more than one night.

**ORIGINAL POST**

So some background, I am 20, I still live with my parents because I pay for my college and they said since they aren't helping pay for college I can still stay at home so at least they are helping me somewhat financially. It is really helpful for that to be one less thing to worry about.

I also have a boyfriend who I have been seeing for 7 months. They let me go over to his house for sleepovers but only one night at a time.

They say that I can't go over for multiple nights until he asks and HE initiates a handshake with my father. My boyfriend is autistic and is working up the courage to shake my father's hand because touch randomly is one of those things that he isn't okay with due to being on the spectrum. My parent's don't understand why he won't just shake my father's hand (apparently he isn't being respectful by not doing so but I think they are being kinda not respectful by expecting him to just ignore how he feels about touch)(but that doesn't matter because he says he will do it on Wednesday because he wants me to be able to come over more often)

What I need advice about is how does he ask for me to stay multiple nights. If you were a parent how would you want your childs significant other to ask for your permission?

Any advice would be helpful because he says he is going to do it on Wednesday.