Makes me feel like I’m crazy

May be a long read

I have a 13 year old child from a different relationship and I have an 11 month old with my current relationship of 3 years, my boyfriend makes me feel like Like I’m in the wrong all the time like just now we argued because he had used a clean tea towel that was on the kitchen side for drying the plates and cutlery after they had been washed up etc and he wiped his face with it, when I said to put it in the washing machine as it wasn’t clean now he said I was mad he always says I have ocd because I like to clean my house daily, not excessively but I like to hoover an mop the floors as I also have a dog who constantly sheds her hair and the baby crawls around,

I do moan like if makes a drink an leaves the spilt coffee on the kitchen side or has a shave an leaves shaving foam in the sink or dirty washing on the floor I do then ask him to tidy it as I’m fed up of cleaning up all the time after him when he doesn’t clean the house in the first place,

it then turns into an argument he’ll say I’m Mad an I need to talk to the drs as I have ocd when I don’t think i do it’s just common fkin sense to clean up after yourself, even his mom thinks I’ve got ocd just because my house is tidy and I like things a certain way.

He also tells me he can’t put up with me being like this an that he will leave when the baby is old enough to which I reply well leave now then. Today after arguing about the towel he’s then brought up something completely different an mentioned my 13 year old sons dad saying no wonder he left if you was like this was him when his dad left he said he didn’t love me anymore then moved in with somebody else two weeks later, at the time I was hurt but I’ve never used my son to get back at him, an never would.

now I’ve been separated from his dad for 7 years. When we split up he would visit his dad every other weekend after a few years my son never wanted to stay over night so he would just go on the Saturday for a few hours then after a while he wouldn’t want to go, I told my sons dad he would need to make him go to his on the weekend that he was meant to have him because when he gets older he won’t want to go, to which he responded no he wasn’t forcing him to be somewhere he doesn’t want to be, so now my son is 13 an when asked. If he wants to visit his dads he will say no if he says yes then he goes but it’s not often.

his dad won’t communicate with me never texts me to ask about our son never attends parents evening when invited, never invites him out for family meals at bdays, none of his family phone or communicate with my son his aunt lives around the corner an doesn’t even bother an my son has a phone which his dad has the number to an he never texts or phones the only time he has texted is when my son has texted him

First, he buys him bday presents an Xmas but doesn’t help With clothes, school uniform or anything he needs an I don’t ask because it just turns into an argument when I do so I gave up asking years ago, but now my current partner is blaming me saying I’m the reason his dad doesn’t want to see him an that I should have made my son go an to tell him he has to, yes when he was younger but now he is now 13 I think it’s his choice now when he was younger yes but his dad didn’t want to force him.

I just feel like I’m going crazy feel like my boyfriend makes out I’m the one at fault all the time no matter what the arguments about it’s always me he argues an gets to the point where he says he hates me and he’s only here for the baby even when I was pregnant he said he it but then apologises after an it’s okay for a few days till it happens again, I just feel like he’s making me crazy