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Husband is suffering.. Paternity issues part 1

Buckle up folks it’s gonna be long and crazy!!

I’m going to start with back story. It’s important. But I feel for my husband to the fullest!!

So my husband is 29 will turn 30 in December. He is a Jr. and his father died in 2000 from bone cancer and at the time my husband and his mom and siblings lived a few hours away and got the news that he was dying in the hospital and his last wish was the see his son. Not his sons but his son. I add emphasis on this because my husband’s mom we will call her Carol was married at the time to him we will call him Jacob. But, Jacob had a feeling that Carol’s other 2 children were not his although he did not have proof. But they looked exactly like a guy we will call him Derek that Was in love with Carol and they were close friends and there marriage at times was trouble because he cheated and always worked. So at the time Carol became pregnant with both of the younger sons the timing never added up because she was occasionally out of town and then came back pregnant. (This is as best as I can describe it per the information she has told me)

Now it all didn’t start bad but Carol and Jacob were early into their marriage when they became pregnant with a baby girl. Who is my husband’s older sister. pregnancy went as planned and at birth things became gloomy. The baby girl was born stillborn but came out super light complected with red hair. Jacob is half Cuban and black his mother was very fair toned and came to the country fresh from Cuba and his father was black and skin the color as chocolate. But Jacob himself was brown with skin the color of hazelnut. And Carol was brown skin the color of mahogany brown. Simply using these based on how They all look to highlight differences and also genetic history that will come into play with the children in question.

So after this heartbreak Carol in grief could not hold her baby something she regrets to this day. But Jacob did. The nurses allowed him to name her and to hold and comfort her as if she were alive and well. He handed her over to the nurses and that was the last he saw of his baby girl his first child until the funeral. A few months came and went and Carol and Jacob were pregnant again and this time Carol would only carry the baby for a short time before miscarrying.

This is when Jacob became slightly estranged and working extra hours and the entertaining different women outside of his wife. But while at home he and Carol did what married couples do and became pregnant again 4 years after the loss of their daughter. This is pregnancy was successful and the child born was my husband. Jacob was so happy so very proud so wildly in love with successfully having a child. This child would be named after him and he would take this child anywhere he could. This was his pride and joy. He was born fair skinned with sandy brown hair an almost identical twin to his late sister minus the red hair. The marriage was slowly cracking and the two became distant as a couple but 3 years later Carol would be pregnant again and 3 years after that a third boy was born. The second and third child were rumored to belong to an old flame of Carol’s.

Derek would never acknowledge nor would he interfere but he would always be lingering in the background of these two boys because he secretly knew these were his sons as well. But Jacob could never confirm. So he would still raise the boys as his own and give them his last name. The two younger boys had skin the color of cherry wood and although they looked like their mother they strongly resembled Derek almost identically. While Jacob Jr. would turn into a honey toned kid with curly sandy brown hair.

Carol and Jacob separated and Carol leaves her hometown and moves a few hours away still sends the kids to visit for the whole summer but her husband promised to move with her but never came. Jacob wanted his family to remain home so he dug his heels hoping she would just return. She never did and they never divorced or legally separated in 2000 Jacob would be dropped off to his childhood home by his girlfriend who simply told his mother “he is sick and is of no use to me anymore” that is when his mother and father confirmed he had stage 4 bone cancer and was dying with only weeks to live at this point. His final day of life he asked the doctors and family to call his wife because he wants to see his son. He needed to see his son. These were his final words as his sister had the plug pulled shortly after calling Carol to let her know what he said. This entire time she didn’t know about him being sick just as no one else did until it was too late. Jacob died and Carol made it to the hospital much later and saw his body and prepared for the funeral of her husband. The boys were front and center along with his mother and father and siblings.