Opinions?

So, my sex life is nonexistent.

Backstory:

We had our son 16 months ago and that’s where my drive really started to decline. My fiancé started to decline when I first conceived because he felt like he was going to somehow harm our son. No amount of explanations etc would convince him otherwise. Plus watching our son being born caused him a lot of emotional turmoil. Every time we’d try to do something that image would come back to him and would kill the mood. Now that he’s starting to get over that I’m either busy with the kids or too dog tired. Plus my sex drive is gone and all but two positions are really painful thanks to all the scaring from both my children. On my end I think it’s a hormonal problem or depression or maybe even a combination of the two. I feel bad and I’m frustrated because he’s ready to get back in the saddle and I’ve checked out of the building when I’m not busy or tired. I try to just go with it and do it even though I don’t feel like it but the thought gives me anxiety and I find myself avoiding it.

And before anyone goes all Captain Obvious on me I don’t want to hear what i ‘need’ to do...I’d really like to hear from other folks that have had similar issues and how they handled them.