Baby shower drama

Okay guys I need opinions. My boyfriend and I have had a date for the baby shower since we found out we were pregnant. Now yes we are aware there’s a pandemic going on. Everyone will be wearing masks and it’s an indoor/outdoor shower so there’s plenty of room for everyone. Our original plan was to have the baby shower at his families house which is where we live, however his mom informed him that she no longer wants us to have the shower here even though she’s known for months when and where it was going to be. I told my mom and she said to have it at her house since her husband will be out of town anyways. My boyfriend of course isn’t happy about it but I mean where else would we do it we have no other options. I went to lunch today with my mom and my mom informed me that she doesn’t want his cousins kids to go which I don’t blame her for. The kids are old enough to know how to behave and they don’t. They make a mess everywhere and don’t clean up after themselves and their moms don’t do it either they expect someone else to clean up after their kids. He’s mad at me now because he knows his cousins won’t go if their kids can’t go. He’s saying that if they can’t come then we are just going to do it at our house where his mom doesn’t want it. We have already told everyone on my side of the family that the address had changed and that it would now be at my moms. I don’t want to change the address again when his mom doesn’t even want it here. What would you guys do? Is it even worth it to do a shower at this point?