AITA for getting upset at fiancé and his father for exposing us to COVID?

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**Vent/rant for opinions...**
Hey everyone,
First off, I am a high risk individual with heart conditions, diabetes, and other health concerns. My immediate family lives at my house and 2 of my relatives that reside with me are also high risk individuals (asthma, diabetes, over 65 and over 86, and a few other medical conditions). We take extra extra care with our health and wellness.
During the peak of COVID, my family and I remained in house lockdown for months to safeguard ourselves. I teleworked and had to get medical clearance to return to work. A bit extreme, but we did not even step foot outside, on the backyard, or porch. 
Fiancé and his family live in their own respective homes, approximately half an hour from my home. Every weekend fiancé and I get together at his house, because he does not have a car or driver’s license. According to him and them, none of them are high risk individuals. 
So, today, fiancé and I are minding our business at his house and his parents each decide to pay him a visit at separate intervals. First, MIL drops in and she comes within 1 foot of me to catch up. As MIL is leaving, FIL arrives. He stops MIL in driveway to speak to her in her car, then proceeds to come to us and enter house. Fiancé meets up with FIL and a family friend of theirs in the dining room. They come within 2 - 3 feet of each other. After about 15 - 25 minutes, FIL leaves. Fiancé comes back into bedroom, grabs my face and starts kissing me and nudging his face with mine. Then, fiancé plops into bed next to me and tries to casually tell me a coworker of FIL’s just tested positive for COVID last night and FIL was exposed, so will probably require testing. MIL just found out about FIL upon the exchange in the driveway.
Immediately I ask fiancé for clarification and he repeats himself, but provides vague details and tries to play the situation down, trying to turn the TV back on to drown out my inquiries. I freak out and ask fiancé to contact FIL for further details, reminding fiancé that my family and I are high risk. Also, for about 2 weeks, it was planned that my family was supposed to come over tonight for dinner per fiancé’s family’s request. 
Fiancé contacts FIL and FIL informs us he will simply not participate in tonight’s dinner to not expose anyone (despite already exposing fiancé and fiancé me). I tell fiancé that everything is off for tonight, because I will not expose my high risk grandmother and aunt, so I will be immediately leaving to go back to my house. Fiancé and FIL tried to dumb down the situation saying, “Oh, that coworker was asymptotic anyway;” “Who is to say you aren’t carrying COVID home every time you go home from work?;” “He just won’t go to dinner;” “I’m sure you’re exposed to COVID all the time!;” “It’s probably nothing and you could be asymptomatic too anyway.” 
Fiancé was on phone with FIL and MIL as I packed my stuff up go back home. I told fiancé, “Great. Now I’m going to have to go to the hospital and get tested too.” He shared my statement with MIL and she said I didn’t have to go to the hospital, but could try one of the drive-thru COVID testing clinics like the pharmacies have. MIL also agreed we should call off the dinner too though. 
I flipped out on fiancé over all this, especially their nonchalant demeanor about the seriousness of the matter, FIL’s ignorance, carelessness, and irresponsibility. Fiancé was downplaying the entire situation and trying to find justifications for everything, including why I should just stay anyway, despite potentially being exposed. Now I am currently in isolation at home, and will have to get tested too...praying I do not develop symptoms and can still go to work, otherwise I will be losing out on pay for having to stay home from work, even if it’s just a possibility of exposure. 
I conveyed all of this to fiancé and he hasn’t responded and doesn’t seem to care or take me and my concerns seriously. He never apologized before me leaving and simply said, “Well, love you and hope you have a better day.”
AITA for getting highly upset at fiancé and his father for exposing him and me, a high risk individual, to COVID?

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You're in the wrong. If you were so worried you shouldn't have even been at his house. Period. You put yourself and your family at risk by visiting your fiance regularly knowing full well he was seeing his parents and that his dad works outside the home.

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Why are you at his house if you are this paranoid .?

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I don’t get why you went home. At that point, you were already exposed and you went back to a high risk house...seems irresponsible on you as well...
I’d be upset over the situation, but it was a decision you made to leave your house and go over there consistently through covid.

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I can see where you’re going with this, and YES, the fact that your fiancé is being totally nonchalant about the fact that you’ve now all been potentially exposed...well, that’s a concerning thing. 
That said, you keep talking about how “safe” you’ve been, but you really haven’t. You’ve been visiting someone outside your home (fiancé) who is also not isolating and is seeing others who work outside the home (in-laws). So...you don’t get to be quite so holier-than-thou.
Canceling plans, isolating, and getting tested are all good ideas. And you and your fiancé need to have a good, long talk about priorities.

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I totally feel you on this. We need to take precautions and everyone else as well. You had no idea your father in law was recently exposed and it’s not your fault. Continue to isolate yourself for 2 weeks. I’ll pray for you. I know what it’s like to be around someone with Covid. My husband got it and I was very cautious. My children and I never got it but it was a hard 2 weeks disinfecting everything all day everyday. We didn’t even get the antibodies so my cleaning definitely helped.

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I personally feel you are exposed by going into work everyday especially if u work with the public. At this particular junction if you are in close proximity with individuals for wxtended periods of time who do not self isolate then you are exposing yourself as people can and are asymptomatic carriers. Its a false sense of security to think your fiance and his family who work and go in the public have not been exposed until hearing of someone who got tested. So many people hv it or go home to family members that hv it... and still return to workfor financial reasons. Its sad but true.

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Clearly they've all been having regular contact with each other, which means your fiancee was a potential exposure risk every single time you visited, and the only difference now is that you know it. 
Take a breath, wash your hands, get tested, and reevaluate your visiting habits while cases are rising. It doesn't matter how small your circle is if people in that circle are also visiting exposure risks.

AITA for getting upset at fiancé and his father for exposing us to COVID?

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