Doesn't get it...

My husband is kind of a moron. I love him and I married him so he's my moron to deal with but over the past five years he has seen first hand how much of a strain and pain his family puts me through yet doesn't act any way other than just shrugging it off. Every family gathering, party, Holiday, loss of a loved one, marriage, even simple walking and talking in the front yard... Something. Always. Happens.. drama, lies, rumors. I know that's just how family is but he refuses to "leave the nest" so to say. I've never intentionally started drama it mainly starts bc his mom lives and strives off of coming up with random crap and drama in her head. Both of my husband's brothers moved one older one younger and they say it's like 95% bc their partners wouldn't be happy here and it's toxic and unhealthy for their relationships to be around the family so much. BUT MY HUSBAND DOESN'T CARE. He doesn't care how unhappy I am here. I am grateful for what we have and appreciative of what has been given to us and whatnot but it's the fact that he refuses to acknowledge that we will not be happy here. Having to be a husband to a wife and a son to a mother and father at the same time being intertwined is not healthy and should be separate. For five years he has chose them. He has tried to be a good husband and a good son all at once at the same time for too long and where he is lacking on the husband side, he's putting that energy toward his parents. He was always "the favorite" which makes me think he would rather jeopardize our relationship for his parents constant approval. It's sweet that's he's close to them don't get me wrong and I know they would rather see him success and do something with his life rather than stay here and follow in their foot steps but they don't communicate that to each other. Idk I'm getting fed up with the pain...