I have a son who's 9months old with my boyfriend and I'm also 13weeks pregnant with our second. I'm a stay at home mom bc my son had medical issues in early infancy and with covid we figured it would be easier if I stayed home. He works at a restaurant doing a 3-11 shift 5-6 days a week. Everyday when he gets home he falls into his own little routine (since my son is already in bed and sleeps 12hrs through the night). He comes home around midnight and almost immediately gets on his ps4 and goes in and out of our house so he can smoke. He does this every day from 12 until 7am when my son wakes up for the day. What a "coincidence" right. Then he goes to bed for the day until it's time for work again. Last week on one of his days off I asked him to put the baby to bed and he just smacked his lips at me because he didn't want to. So I said fuck it did it myself. I'm getting extremely overwhelmed and exhausted. Today I made my point heard. I'm tired of living like a single parent when he is literally in the next room. I cried to him and told him I'm exhausted that I need help with our son and I'm getting to the point where I need help dealing with my mental health as well. He starts saying he stays away because I'm always mad. NO SHIT I'm mad dude you're not attending to your responsibility and leaving me to drown on my own. His logic is since I'm mad all the time it means I'm mad with my son and that I don't want to take care of him and be his mom. Then goes on to say maybe you weren't meant to be one. Like whuuuuuuuuttt 💢💢💢💢💢💢💢💢 So even though he got only a few hours of sleep I woke his ass up to come help anyways because I'm tired of this. So he's glaring at me and falling asleep again on the couch as I write this 🙄

Me and my kids deserve better and not come second to being online or getting high. It's not the fact of needing help, it's him not taking care of his kid that's pissing me off.

Seriously considering moving in with family.

Would I be wrong to take my kids and just say fuck it you didn't care to see him then so you can't now. Cuz it's heavily being considered.

*****Just so I don't have to keep commenting this

He has a kid from a previous relationship that he has child support/ visitation rights set up with. He does not go. Nor does he intend to. So going through court to get something set up for my kids will be more of a waste of time and money on my part since I know he would not show.*****