I know it’s different for everyone, but just want to see what’s the general sense of things people are into.

I just started “seeing” someone, mostly just for the sex. He’s extremely kinky and has done everything under the sun: threesomes, sex parties, bondage, etc.

I just came out of a monogamous 20-year relationship who was the only person I had ever been with and we had pretty vanilla sex.

So I’m discovering my wild side with this new guy and enjoying it so far. But last time he said he wanted to tie me up and abuse me..... He explained that it’s about blurring the lines between pain and pleasure. I enjoy a bit of kink and rough sex, and honestly I’m not against being tied up. It’s the “abusing” part I’m worried about. what does that actually mean and how far could it actually go?