4 month sleep regression 😫

I’m losing my marbles. I’m a first time mom. Her bedtime usually starts with a bath, massage, and end with a feeding around 830-9pm. She has been waking every 2 hours at night and not letting us out her down for a few days now. But last night it was worse. Last night my little one would not let me put her down in her crib at all until one in the morning. After that she woke up every 45 mins to 1 hour. She didn’t sleep sleep until 5am and wake up on her own at 9. It takes a lot longer for her to calm down when my boyfriend holds her for some reason so I have to get up every time. I’m losing so much sleep and she is too 😫 she barely naps as well. Won’t sleep unless she’s next to me in the bed and we do not want to start that habit. The cry it out method isn’t an option since her crib is in our room and I can’t relax at all when she’s upset. Any tips?