Fiancé doesn’t like weight

When I was first with him, I was about 165 lbs. I had a baby, and experienced horrible PPD and our relationship was very rocky.

I got up to 230 lbs due to everything. It hurt me so badly because my fiancé didn’t like looking at me naked anymore, never had sex, he only liked watching porn. It hurt so badly but if he’s not attracted, he’s not attracted, I can’t force him.

But now his comments he’s made has haunted me. One day he said “you’d promise me you’d never get like this” when I was crying about him watching porn which affected how much we had sex.

I wanted to do something that he might find hot so I wanted him to take a naked pic of me and he only took the pic from the top up but made me lift up my mom boobs.

Last night, he asked me if I would use a waist trainer now that I’ve been working out. It’s hard to tell if I’m being too sensitive & projecting my insecurities, or are these actually hurtful comments?