So ever since my son was born my fiancé and I have alternated spending Christmas day with our families (we don’t do a get together with everyone as our families don’t get along that well, but that’s another story...) and this year it’s his family’s turn to have Christmas Day so that everyone can see our son who’s 3. I was completely okay that it’s “their year” until I found out that Christmas Dinner would not be at his Moms house like it has been before and instead his sister would be cooking Christmas dinner. This is where my problem with that begins...

His sister is a S L O B, and always has been. My fiancé agrees with me on that. Any time we’ve been invited over for dinner, I dread going because her house is disgusting. Her kitchen is filthy, and I don’t just mean “untidy” but filthy. Her sink is always filled with dirty dishes that have rotting food on them. Her fridge looks like it’s never been cleaned properly with spills and liquid from rotting food. Her floors are full of crumbs and animal hair, and any surface that you sit on is covered in cat and dog hair. The bathroom is disgusting. Bottles and bottles of empty shampoo just in a pile in the tub which looks like it’s never been cleaned. She didn’t even have hand soap in the bathroom or a towel to dry your hands. Her house is constantly full of clutter everywhere you look. Mountains and mountains of laundry laying all over the house. Her poor kid (age 10) doesn’t even have sheets on his bed, and his floor is covered in garbage and sticky spots of spilling pop...I could go on and on about this house. It’s honestly just a nightmare. The last time we were left I had THROW AWAY my socks because they were so gross after walking in that house.

It just seems a bit unsanitary to eat there, but my fiancé is hell bent on going and he thinks I’m just being a bitch. He’s said it before that he thinks his sisters house is disgusting, but yet still insists that we go and take our 3 year there. Honestly, putting anything that was cooked in that house makes me want to throw up. I’m debating on telling her directly that I don’t want to subject myself as well as my son to eating dinner at that place. If my fiancé wants to go, then he can go.

I know Christmas is about being with family, but I can’t seem to relax and enjoy my dinner knowing that it was prepared in her kitchen. How should I go about this? Nobody in her family seems to have the balls to tell her to her face that her house is dirty and gross. Any suggestions???