If your husband is a lazy ass how was he raised?

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Out of genuine curiosity, how was your husband parented? All my friends have the same complaint about their husband’s except for 2 of them. And I have a theory. 
My husband does Jack shit. Up until our baby was born, the work load of house stuff was 50/50 we had a great balance. As soon as we had a baby it shifted to 100/0
He didn’t help with baby or do ANY house work. 
Looking at his dad I can tell he was raised like it was 1930. His mom did everything and his dad sat in a chair and drank beer. 
Since I’ve become the “mom” my husband now does nothing. I’m communicating to him my need for him to do anything to help me. That’s not what I’m curious about, I’m wondering if your husband/boyfriend/life partner shifted when you became a mom/got married or if maybe they’ve always been that way. I’m also wondering how they were raised.
If you have a good one, how was he raised?

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I have a good one. 
He was raised by not having to do anything around the house. He watched his mom cater to his alcoholic dad & watched him hit her. He decided to break that chain bc he didn’t like seeing his mom cry so he doesn’t want our boys to ever witness that. 
We’re both from old school Mexican families where the moms did absolutely everything while the husbands just sat there. My mom was like that with my dad & told me I had to do everything in the house when I married (her mentality). My husband from the start said no, it’s 50/50 & not even 50/50 because sometimes one of us is at 30 & the other has to put the 80. 
Right now, my husband isn’t feeling well & he’s waiting his results for covid (most likely has it) & I’m carrying all the weight at home. Marriage is about teamwork.

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I have a good one. He was raised by a mom would insisted her kids do chores and keep her house neat as a pin and a father who insisted they all get up early on the weekends and do sports after school. 
He hated the way he was raised and we had to work hard to undo certain habits - for instance, his father believes there is only ever one correct way to do anything, and wouldn't allow his daughter to help the boys rebuild their garage. 
I actually had to help him learn to loosen up and go with life's crazy flow and to work through his instinctive reaction to "traditional" gender roles so he didn't end up with ulcers or smacked upside the head.

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My husband is great.
We don't have kids (other than fur babies) at the moment but we have been TTC. He helps plenty around the house and we e sacrifice for one another....for example. I hate doing the dishes, so he does them so I don't have to. He doesn't like cleaning the shower and tub, so I do those instead. We are a team. 
However, I have thise theory that boys who were raised as a "man of the house" because their dads were either always working or sick, or even just because they were the oldest sibling, tend to be supportive of these types of roles when they are older. His parents spoiled them all as kids, but with him being the oldest child and boy, he sorta took on the role of the protector of his younger siblings.
He's amazing and I know he will be amazing with our future kiddos. I can't wait to see him become a father 🥰
Hope this helps determine if your theory is accurate 😁

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I have a good husband considering how he was brought up, I think he got very lucky lol. His mom was addicted to pain medication when he & his siblings were younger & she tried to kill herself at one point when my husband’s older sister got pregnant & had the baby, because she was no longer the center of attention. She causes a strain on the family & started going to counseling afterwards. His parents ended up divorcing. She took my husband with her when he was about 16, because she couldn’t drive, to the bank so she could deposit all of the money from their joint bank account without their dad knowing. My husband walked in her doing it & felt guilty. 
After therapy, she demanded apologies from all of her kids (she has 7 kids total) & their dad told her SHE was the one who needed to apologize to them for putting them through all of that, treating them like shit & then trying to manipulate them. & for also trying to kill herself when she was no longer the center of attention. 
To this day her kids don’t want anything to do with her & she lives in a different city. They all have a great relationship with their dad. My husband told me their house was always a mess growing up & was disgusting. Surprisingly though, he likes everything clean. He doesn’t like to leave a mess, it has to be cleaned up right then & there. He does 50/50 & he’s good with his hands & tools & fixing things so if anything needs fixing in our apartment, he can usually fix it. 
I’m not a mom yet but we adopted a puppy together & he’s a pretty good dog dad. I know it’s different from a real baby but he’s so sweet with him so I imagine he’ll be good with a real baby. 
I love my husband & im glad with the way things turned out even given his circumstances growing up.

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I have an amazing husband! He can literally do anything and always helps me out. They were kinda on their own like cook for yourself wash your own cloths ect. My brothers I have 6 of them are more lazy ina way. Since we have this is a girls job and boys jobs. Will definitely be raising my kiddos to know how to do everything.

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My husband is very helpful. He moved out and into a college dorm at 16 which I think is what made him really independent and self sufficient. Never moved back home after.

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My husband helps out so much with our son and around the house when I need it. He also works full time, does the house maintenance, pays bills and provides for our family.
He actually grew up with a father who did nothing to help his mom raise him or cooking or cleaning. He says he saw how hard his mother worked and saw her struggling. He doesn't want to be like his father, but better.

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He's a completely fantastic, hands on dad, which coincide with the rest of his families views that children are everybody's responsibility. 
The house work is...not the best. His mom always and still does takes care of everything. I'm 99% sure 'acts of service' is her love language. He doesn't hesitate when I ask him to do things, but getting him to do those things without me asking first is a huge problem.

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Mine is so tidy and productive that it’s almost annoying lol he can never relax. He’s up by 6am everyday doing some sort of tidying or project. He grew up with just his mom and 3 younger siblings so he was definitely the man of the house.

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My husband is great. He had basic responsibilities growing up. He’s a wonderful dad, really involved. I tend to take on more of the mental load in terms of parenting, but when it gets overwhelming he listens and tries to take on more.

If your husband is a lazy ass how was he raised?

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