My husband has a foot and bondage fetish. When we first got together it was fun but now that we are married I crave a deeper connection to him emotionally and naturally I would like that reciprocated. I talked to him about it one day and pretty much said he would never be able to connect with me (or anyone else) in that way and that if he had to choose between “being in the moment” without the bondage equipment or feet involved or no sex at all he would choose no sex at all. It broke my heart and still hurts me because I feel that sex in a marriage needs that emotional connection both ways or it just doesn’t work. Thoughts?