My mom is a narcissist... from the time I was 11 until a year ago I've been living to please her. My grandma is always in between us trying to keep the peace but my mom can never admit when she's wrong and I'm tired of being made out to be the bad guy especially when I've done nothing but try to please her. I left my momma early in 2020 when I started to ascend into my spirituality and the one thing I've learned about a narcissist is the best way to deal with them is to starve them... starve them of your conversation, presence and emotions. I haven't heard from my mother in a year it's been peaceful.

But I have my grandma in my ear pressing me about making it right. How can I make it right when she has the problem??? I can come to the table and talk like adult not her she's always the victim. My mom's ability to make every single thing about herself is a skill I swear!!! The scenarios she makes up in her mind it's pure talent she should've been a screenwriter or sumn but my grandma pressing me to make things right is a failed mission. I tried it my way and her way, neither worked. I'm not about getting bowing down and getting up with foot prints on my back. It's my grandma's dream for my siblings and I to have a relationship with our mom, she pressures me the most because I'm the oldest. I just wish my grandma could see if all 5 of us have issues with her that's called a pattern and she should talk to her daughter instead of me. My brothers and sister are grown, taking care of themselves. I can't make them do a thing I'm not even trying to do. There's an outside event coming up that my grandparents want us present for but my mom will be there so my family isn't coming. I'm not about to be made fun of because I left the religion, married a latino and had children. That what she does to me goes on a full assault on her daughter but asks me to find her a good man like mine. My anxiety is through the roof just thinking about this!