Having my husband do drop offs at daycare?

Question

Okay so I’m struggling with PPA. My maternity leave is over. I work at a child care centre my daughter was going to be in my class but COVID has complicated the staffing at my centre and that can’t happen right now. I’m heart broken and sad to leave her all day. I have had 3 anxiety attacks in 4 days. My husband keeps saying it’s fine if she’s sad all kids have to go to day care or school that I’m overreacting. My husband drives by my centre on the way to work. I’m feeling like he should be the one to deal with the morning routine and tearful goodbyes since he doesn’t seem to care at all. He thinks I should just do the drop off because I’m going there, but I don’t think it fair to leave it all to me to deal with. Thoughts? Am I being petty?
*** My boss has managed to pull some strings for me and we will be in the same class for the first little while at least. I’m so beyond grateful and just relived. I can breathe again. I’m still very nervous about COVID but I’m dealing and this is pretty much the best possible outcome. Thank for everyone’s advice and kind words I really appreciated it***

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He should drop her off for 2 weeks. Yes it’ll be a pain in the ass, but my husband did this so I could cope. It’s about supporting your partner, not about convenience. 
It’ll be just fine. You’ll see, it just takes time. 
Also, if you arnt already, please talk to a therapist.

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I think it's the way men and women are wired. I felt the same way. And I spoke very directly to my husband about my needs regarding my mental health and he really stepped up to the plate. Additionally, I agreed to have counseling. We've come leaps and bounds since then. Good luck mama. It gets a little easier but it's always going to sting a little when you leave your baby. And it's really hard to cope with those feelings some times. Hang in there!

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You’ll never not miss your baby but you’ll get into a routine. But yes, he should see what drop off entails so he can emphasize with what you’re going through.

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I used to think that my fiancé was weird for how upset he would get doing drop-off duty and then the one day I had to do it. I found myself crying in my car as they took her into the daycare. I stuck to just picking her up after that one day, and now she's at home with me because we had her sister and childcare was more than I made at my job.

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It will all of you good. Its easier on you, your baby will be more at ease as daddy isnt stressing and he gets to have something that he does. Daddy takes our girl to his sisters as its just easier and gives me time to get ready without my  tiny shadow lol. 
Man definitely think differently it ruins my day if I leave her crying but he just bats it off. As he knows its only temporary and she will soon be off playing. I just cant do that its still like a physical pain when i hear her cry.

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Having your husband do drop-off for a week or two would be great; either your daughter will adjust more easily because she'll sense he has no trepidation, or your husband will understand your perspective better.
I hope you're getting the support you need to calm your anxiety ♥

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That’s true - if you’re clearly expressing that you’re having a hard time and don’t see getting used to it any time soon, maybe he can take a couple days a week off your hands!

Having my husband do drop offs at daycare?

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