How do i cope with a miscarriage?? HELP

Question

This is my first time being pregnant and having a miscarriage, I just cant understand where i went wrong. I blame myself for it. I should have been more cautious with things. But how can i move past this? Like will a pet make me feel better? Anything? It happen 1 month ago and now its starting to affect me alot more. I just want to be left alone. I go to work everyday and pretend my life is normal even sex with husband is non existent since then. He is really assuring and always by my side but i just want to forget and be strong again
 But i feel broken and just a complete shit.

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I felt the exact same way with my first loss. My first loss was at 22 weeks and the I had 4 losses after that at different stages (all within a year). What I learned through the process was that: 
1) it wasn’t my fault, and blaming myself didn’t help anything. I had to undergo testing and found some indicators of the problem and was able to get pregnant after my 6th try.
2) every time you get pregnant after this, you will feel a mixture of fear/anxiety/excitement and those feelings are completely normal. Find a support system that can listen to you and make you comfortable feel everything you feel. 
3) it’s super important to cut yourself some slack. What advice would you give a close friend going through this? Give yourself that same advice. Be kind to yourself and give yourself the time and space you need to mourn your loss. 
Loss is never an easy thing to cope with. Time, support, and kindness are the things that helped me cope enough to be able to deal with a loss in a more manageable way (instead of crying and feeling crappy every day, now I only feel that once every week or two, lol). Please be kind to yourself and give yourself the space to mourn, it’s important!

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Therapy helped me a bit and I keep a journal to write down my feelings. It was my first pregnancy and the loss was pretty traumatic. Just remember you did nothing wrong, there’s nothing you could of done or changed to prevent it. You can message me if you want someone to talk to or just need someone to listen. I don’t mind. ❤️

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I spoke with a woman who is much older than me, she had 5 miscarriages over several years. She cried with me over the phone, and said some things I won't forget. That she never felt like she wanted to quit trying after each loss, and "honey if I'd had all of those kids I'd have ten kids by now.." having a person to talk to who has been through this helped me so much. I agree my husband right now wants nothing to do with me, I think he was just as shocked, and freaked out by the deep grief as I have been. I had a lady say, geez you shouldn't even be worried about having sex right now, you're grieving. But literally all I want is my normal life back, and my loving husband to desire me like he did before the loss. This was my first as well, and my heart goes out to you.

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Talking about it helps, crying, writing your thoughts and feelings down. When I had my 1st miscarriage I was lost, broken and got depressed. We ended up getting a puppy Kobe, he was the best thing that has happened to the both of us. After my 2nd miscarriage Kobe didn't leave my side, after the D & C he slept with his head laying on my tummy and didn't leave my side. 
Just take it day by day, talk to your hubby how your feeling. I hope you have your rainbow baby soon ❤

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So sorry this happened to you.  Ive had 3 since 2019. It hurts and you'll always remember what could have been. I think the only thing that has helped me was thinking that one day itll be worth it and I'll have my healthy baby in my arms. I refuse to give up. 💕 take care of yourself and take time to heal

How do i cope with a miscarriage?? HELP

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