In law issues/ baby shower

So I posted a few days ago about how my in-laws were throwing me a baby shower without mine or my parents knowledge. I ended up finding out because she told some of my other family about it and they ended up asking my parents which my parents knew nothing about it and then my parents asked me because they thought I knew about it. After finding out I expressed to my boyfriend that I was kind of upset because I would’ve liked my parents to be involved and I would’ve liked to know a little bit about it so that way I could invite my own friends. We had originally an in person baby shower planned but it got canceled due to Covid and both of our families were very much involved in the planning. So he ended up telling his mom about me wanting my parents to be involved, his dad ended up calling my dad and he told my parents that they had everything all figured out and they didn’t need any help, so my dad was fine with that but he asked for the invitation at least so that way he could invite some of our family friends. Well he never sent the invitation to my parents, my parents even asked twice for it and they never sent it. Then I guess last night my parents got the invitation from someone else. So at this point my parents aren’t even invited to my baby shower. I also still know nothing about it.  so my mom said that the invitation they got was only in Spanish and my parents have some friends and things like that that they wanted to invite who don’t speak Spanish. My boyfriends family and majority of their friends are only Spanish speakers so it’s clear the invitation was meant for people who only speaks Spanish obviously.  so at this point my parents are thinking that we’re just gonna have a separate one at their house for our friends and family. We were trying to avoid this from the beginning because we didn’t want to have a divide with our families we wanted to all be involved and everyone spend time together. I’m so confused on why his parents are acting like this especially so close to when I’m due, I can’t understand why they would be wanting to have a divide with my parents especially at a time like this. Within the last few months his mom has been really problematic, she started making comments to me about how she hopes I don’t keep the baby from her and just comments like that when I’ve never given her a reason to think that I would do that I’ve always been extremely nice to her even though I’m not her biggest fan. This is both their first grand baby. my question is should I just let them throw their own baby shower and not include or even invite my parents and then just let my parents throw their own or should I bring it up? I really don’t want to cause more problems than there already is but I’m really not OK with his parents acting this way with mine. My boyfriend has expressed to his parents multiple times that we want my parents to be involved but it’s clear that’s not happening. I really don’t know how to handle this or if I should just leave it alone. 

Let me add that my parents only found out about the baby shower and got the invitation from my grandma, my boyfriends mom talks to my grandma a lot. My grandma even told my parents that she’s helping out with some stuff for the baby shower so I was also offended by that because she’s having my grandma help but not even my parents

It’s a drive thru shower btw