I was visiting my dad this weekend, I don’t see him often because our relationship just isn’t set up to be that way and because of COVID. First thing he said to me was “Why are you gaining weight?” Yet he wonders why I don’t come around anymore. I understand that it’s just something some parents do but it doesn’t make it right. I’m not too unhealthy for my height and age so TO ME, I’m okay with my body. I don’t think you need to be a size small to be pretty etc. I grew up with my mom and she’s been one of my biggest supporters. I’ll tell her my insecurities about my weight but she’ll be reassuring and nice about it. My dad also feels like I owe him something. He’s the one who flaked on me and my siblings leaving my mom a single mother for years. He wants to brag about the dad title and how his kids are successful this and that, but I could say he has nothing to do with my success. My mom is the one who raised me, paid for my necessities, and schooling. He got mad at me today because he wanted to have dinner next weekend, but I told him I was busy + I personally don’t agree with dining at restaurants during the pandemic. If that’s his thing sure, but I don’t want to be put into an uncomfortable decision. He tries to blame our relationship being the way it is. I’ll text him here and there but it is never him reaching out to me and genuinely trying to get to know me and my interest.