Baby #2...?

My first son was born in dec 2018 too. We just had our 2nd 3 weeks ago. We had no idea what to expect for our toddler in terms of his reaction to having a baby brother. Our toddler isn’t potty trained and he is a busy and energetic handful who doesn’t do much on his own. To our delight, our toddler absolutely loves the new baby. He wants to help with everything, comes along with whatever we’re doing with the baby, for example to change a diaper and wants us to read books to him AND the baby. Our toddler always begs to hold “his” baby, and loves to kiss and hug him. IMO our toddler is way more work than the new baby right now. The baby phase right now is just eating, sleeping and cuddling. So we can put the baby in the swing and spend time playing one on one with our toddler quite a bit. I definitely recommend a carrier - that also helps to be able to do more with our toddler. I will say though that any difficulties that we had with our toddler before the baby are harder to deal with because with sleeplessness we’ve lost some of our patience.

My dtr is 2 and I had my son 2 months before she turned 2. She’s done really well overall. I worried about how she would feel and react but after an adjustment period of about 2 weeks she had been accustomed to seeing her brother every day and mostly just ignores unless she wants to play with him. He’s 19 weeks old (just over 4) months. I think she will really enjoy when he’s a little older, however once he can crawl and steal her toys she might not be too happy about it. 😋 our biggest challenge is when she wants attention but we can’t provide it in the way that she wants every time bc we are tending to the baby and then she melts down and that causes less patience for everyone because she can really be dramatic at times. Just normal parts of life I guess. I can barely remember how I felt before we had our son because he is part of the family now and we love him so much!

I’m expecting baby number 2 in April. We are lucky that both aunties of our son have had babies since he was born one year after the other so he knows now there’s a baby in my belly he’ll often come and lay his head and say aww give her a kiss and carry on playing. He’s lovely with his younger cousins (1yo and 4mo) but how he will be when he sees his own mammy with a new baby I’m not too sure ! We decided to have our 2nd now as our son still doesn’t sleep through the night so thought get all the sleepless years over and done with at once!