Hi Ladies, for the past 6 months I’ve been dealing with the aftermath of my husband cheating. The drunken one night stand was in 2018 but I found out in August 2020. He was out of town for work and he did the unforgivable. I only found out because the girl posted my husbands fb on a private Snapchat. A girl that was in the private Snapchat sent me the screenshot letting me know that someone was bragging about sleeping with my husband. I of course approached my husband but I also sent this girl a message trying to get answers. She ignores my message until the following day I got drunk and called her a B for ignoring me but she finally responded.

Of course she was upset but said she didn’t care and to talk to my husband then blocked me. So being the crazy drunk that I was I then went to her Instagram and apologized and said I just wanted to know what happened that night. All she said was there was a lot of alcohol involved and she hinted that he was entertaining her but then blocked me. I also noticed that she blocked my husband as well(they were not friends just in the people you may know section)

Fast forward to now I’m still angry at both of them. Of course angry that my husband disrespected me and put our marriage on the line. But also angry at her because why couldn’t she just answer my questions when I first asked. Why did she feel the need to post him on a private Snapchat? They both said there was no communication after it and I do believe that. But why did she care so much to post it? That is haunting me. Was it because she was upset that she’s a one night stand?

I guess I’m looking for advice. I am obsessing over her Twitter and realized that she just moved into town. I asked my husband if he would tell me if he saw her and he was like would you want me to tell you? Like duh of course but on the other hand would I obsess over her exact location?

I am just lost and so so angry. At the end of the day I know my husband is completely at fault. I am angry at him but I’m angry at her as well. Her actions and words make me feel like she did know he was married but didn’t care.

Do marriages survive cheating? Any advice would really help, I’m struggling.