So my aunt had her blood tested at around 10 weeks by her doctor to find out the gender of her most recent baby, and we both have the same insurance.

She also had an ultrasound done around the same time.

I asked my doctor about both of these things today as I’m nearly 12 weeks. (Reason for both being: my mom wants to throw a gender reveal party, and she needs to know when she can find out the gender. And I, honestly, like anybody else, want to see the baby.)

Her response to the gender testing was that I had to wait until my 20 Week ultrasound to find out. So I brought up what happened with my aunt, and she asked my aunt’s age while giving me a side-eyed, irritated look. Which, you know, I don’t see how my aunt’s age matters? (Not that I said anything to the doctor.) Google says nothing about age being a factor in the testing. I’m 21, and my aunt might be in her 30’s, but she has a stepdaughter only two or three years older than me who did the same thing with her second baby.

Then the doctor got an attitude and told me if I wanted to do that I’d have to go online and buy the $80 at-home test.

And, let me clarify, I wasn’t being rude or disrespectful at any point. I was just curious. Asking questions. Like you’re supposed to do at prenatal visits. Especially with your first pregnancy.

So I was kind of shocked into silence for a moment then I decided to ask her when my first ultrasound would be as I have yet to have one. She looked at me, smiled kind of smugly, and said “When we do an anatomy scan at 20 weeks to find out the gender.”

So I was again dumbfounded. All of my family members and my friends had had at least one scan before 20 Weeks. If not more.

She then took longer finding the baby’s heartbeat with her doppler than I usually take at home with my cheap, little doppler that only has a volume half as loud as hers.

When I started asking more specific questions about issues I’d been having, she seemed annoyed and kept rushing me, asking me in a dismissive way, if you know what I mean, if I had any more questions. It made me feel like I was just being irritating, so I eventually gave up and told her I had nothing else to ask, and she walked away and left me standing in the hallway so quickly that the nurse had to be the one to tell me that I was free to go.

I had bloodwork, a urine culture, and a pap smear done OVER a week ago that they still don’t have results to. Which most likely is no fault of theirs BUT...

The whole reason I had for going to this appointment was because I was in horrible pain last night, cramping in my lower abdomen, my right side, and my lower back, and it burned when I urinated.

The doctor took a urine sample, but she told me they were just going to wait for my PREVIOUS urine culture from over a week ago when I had NO SYMPTOMS to come back, and she’d review the results on that.

She told me she assumed it was just a UTI, which is likely, I agree, although I’ve never had that much pain from a UTI before, and she would just prescribe me antibiotics in the meantime.

Which I had no idea doctors could prescribe medication for something if they weren’t sure that was the real issue, but I guess.

I have another appointment set up with a different doctor, but will somebody tell me if my pregnancy hormones (hehe let’s blame that) are just making me overreact?

Update:

Thank you to those of you who clarified that age actually is a factor with the early gender testing. I only did a quick Google search on it after she asked about my aunt’s age because I was skeptical, and I didn’t see anything, so I assumed it was another way of making me feel stupid for asking questions.