I feel like he thinks little of me.

Like he says im amazing and I’m an amazing mom but if I press for why I get very basic answers “because you are.” “Because your the best”

Sometimes he’ll randomly compliment me in front of the kids like “mommy’s so pretty huh bud?” I always appreciate that. But rarely do I get a direct compliment. Now I know he’s not much of a thinker. That sounds bad but it’s true. I think he has brain fog and he doesn’t like to utilize his mind for proper thoughts. I’m making him sound so dumb but he’s not lol he has different talents. A genius with puzzles I tell you. When he’s interested in a topic (like currently stocks) his mind is bright and open. But thinking about his feelings? Or making a decision? LOL.

ANYWAYS, I’ve just noticed this icky attitude when I try performance type of things. I made a acting duet on tic toc and I think I did well. But he kinda had attitude about it. Like he’s laughing at me. Like he thinks it’s dumb.

I did a voice acting challenge (which I posted on here in the latest uploads vlog) I asked if he saw it and he gave me a sheepish smile “yeeaaahhhh” 😏

If I sing, and this is something I’m undeniably good at, he will always tell me I sound good if I ask, but he’s nitpicking at wether or not I’m using the exact same notes as the original song. If I try to make it sound different he generally doesn’t like it. If I get a lyric wrong in the car he’ll call me out right then and there.

Also there’s this weird attitude when I do make mistakes. Like I twisted my ankle and then I accidentally made it worse a few weeks later and there’s this odd attitude of “of course you did”. Even though I’ve NEVER cut myself with a knife he’s always super paranoid when I’m holding a knife. Always wanting me hold it 100% the correct way.

I know he’s very honest person, and so on one hand I deal with it. But on the other hand it’s really bothers me he doesn’t think more highly of me. Like this is my husband, his opinion absolutely matters to me. And so I’m in this constant state of insecurity.

If I confront him. He will get overly defensive because he can’t handle confrontation no matter how gentle and thats probably his worst quality. I’ve confronted him in therapy about how I feel like he thinks I’m dumb. (Because I have ADD and I do silly things at times) and he’s more careful about not questioning my intelligence, and assured me he does not think I’m dumb, but yet there’s still all this. I can’t figure out what this kind of behavior is called. There must be a name for it. But ugh. I’m getting sick of it.

And just to redeem him a little bit, I’ve never had to worry about his loyalty, he’s always there for me, I have a big ugly stomach from having three kids and he is very considerate of how that makes me feel, he absolutely loves me. I just don’t like this part of things.

Advice?