My husband can be a real asshole and it hurts me to the core.

He is the bread winner and always has been. He has always had the better job and made more money. Even though it is him who wanted us to get the bigger house, nicer cars, etc etc he hates that I can’t contribute financially as much as him. It turns him into a very bitter and mean person. Just out of nowhere today he start telling me how I suck at my job since I don’t make as much money as him. He started putting me down and insulting me. And when I tell him that I am okay with getting a second job he makes comments like “don’t bother. You’ll get fired anyways. You still wouldn’t make as much as me”

It’s tough because I feel like I have no defense. I definitely don’t make nearly as much as him. And I have had a few medical things come up and he had taken care of all the medical bills. He resents me for it. He brings it up often that “his money” goes towards my bills (which are only medical. I don’t have any credit card debt).

I feel like at this point the only thing I can offer him is to separate so that way he no longer feels like he is taking care of me

I’m just feeling really down. I am holding back the tears because I know he said this stuff to hurt me and I don’t want him to see that I am hurting.