Ok so I'm trying to be more understanding with my fiance because I just don't understand him sotmimes. We've been together for 7 years and he's just nit picking me more and more and its driving me crazy. And we've been arguing about the smallest things but he doesn't want to go to couples counseling. So please someone tell me. I clean and cook and take care of our 1 year old. I get everyone has pet peeves but our living room floor is clean and today I went to go help my son on the floor and the blanket and pillow I had while sitting was on the floor and my fiance made a comment about me picking it up I got it why he said it and I just let it go. Then I made him breakfast and he was playing his video game and so I left it on the table and he was fine with that but I went to play with our son because he was crying and then he asked me why I didn't make the bagel i wanted for myself and I told him why and he made me one. He handed it to me and by that time I just laid on the couch because I am tired today and he handed me the bagel and I was still laying and he told me that I should get up before he hands it to me because it's disrespectful to him that I wasn't up and that I should have atleast sat up after he handed it to me..I was going to get up but he had to say something and there's always something everyday. And so we got into a discussion that turned into an argument where he got angry because he said he felt disrespected and I told him I felt like I can't do much in my home like leave the blanket on the floor for a minute without noticing because I went with my son and I was going back or I can't lay and get up in 30 seconds with a plate in my hand. He acts like if I'm a brat. This is the first time in idk how long he even makes me any food or helps me clean and I just let him be and give him love and if something is bothering I don't throw jabs at h. Then he said that I will never understand and that he always understands and sometimes I just feel as if I don't know what to say or if I'm really rude. I get people have rules and were raised or have views on certain things but these things have been driving me mad. And I try to respect his needs and do better but he's never mentioned this before and I've done it before . I feel like he just wants to always say something to me.