Backstory: my mom moved in with us around the time we had our second baby to help with him. Now that Covid is here I’m not sure how we would manage during the day without her. We both work full time jobs and have our four year old and 16 month home with us all day.

We both worked at home prior to covid but our four year old son was at daycare.

Husband works upstairs all day on phones, I’m able to work downstairs with the kids and my mother helps with them especially if I have conference calls. I assist with the kids while working and help our four year take a couple of virtual classes during the day as well. This puts me behind on my work during the day but I’m able to work late nights/early mornings and weekend to make up for it. I’m still nursing and baby sleeps with us so I’m tired a lot.

A few months ago husband decided to leave our bedroom and sleep in the spare room. I’ve asked him to come back and he says he’s not there yet or that he’s still thinking about it. It would help to have him at night because baby sleeps with me and notices if I get up at night to even potty myself. Needless to say with this situation we haven’t been intimate in a while. Now our four year old son says he has nightmares and wants to sleep with me as well.

The other day we were watching a reality show and the couple was discussing their divorce and he says to me we’ll be there soon.

I understand things are not perfect we’re in a pandemic right now and I’m just taking it day by day.

So my question is what would you do in my situation? He’s mad and says he feels like I treat the kids as mine because I interfere with him teaching our son by informing my husband what my son struggles with or is working on. I inform my husband of my sons classes and what lessons were working on but unless he’s working with my son alone he doesn’t seem very interested in what I have to say. When he comes down for breaks and my son is in class my husband is walking around the room not paying attention to the class or what he’s doing.

I’m not unhappy or miserable I’m just coping through this difficult time and trying to do my best by the kids. I know my mom being here is partially a problem for him as well. With covid I’m not sure I want her going to back to her home in North Carolina to be in her home alone.

What advice can you give me ladies? I recommended online counseling but his response so far has been less than agreeable. Sorry this is so long. I guess I just need to know what I can do to put things on a better path. Do you feel like being intimate or trying to make more time alone would help change his mood cause I really don’t get five minutes alone to myself most days. Anyway thanks