Background for the facts:

My sister in law is 9 months first time pregnant she has a septus uterus, we didn't think she will make it so far but God has grace, so she and I were thinking to throw a baby shower to enjoy with friends this time of her life. We have one of the girl friends always organizing and making cakes for celebrations and when she heard, she offered to help. We said okay, though we didn't really want. After few days, my SinL says she doesn't want anymore to make anything because upon discussions with this friend it seems she is busy and they want to make 3 more different parties around same dates.

Then, because she did my baby shower, I felt that I should still be doing it, also it seemed she wanted but our friend just made it sound as we disturb if we do it. So, I go ahead and ask our friend, say her name is Anna, can you talk to all the girls and ask if they would have time and agree to come to my S-in-L on x day, that I will arrange everything and if she (anna) is busy I will do all the stuff, and make it a surprise for the mom to be. She said, okay (because they all talk one language, I am from different background than them), everyone agrees, and we met one day to make the list for what we need, who will bring what...all good, we go back and forth, cannot find pink shiny tablecloth we agree white will be fine, and few other things...she wants to do sweets, the candy wrapping, some games with prizes, I say okay, she knows she did before. 3 days before bb shower, she says better do it in my S-in-L house it's bigger. (From beginning I Saif this but she says, no, we will do it in ur house, we don't want to disturb, she is pregnant and tired, I am not happy but I agree, I start to get my house ready, update some things to make it presentable-have 2 babies, all a mess).okay we break the surprise to my SL and ask her, she agrees. Then Anna, says let's decorate one day before, I don't agree, but hey let's ask the mom to be, whatever she says, it's her house.

Okay, agree on that, we go one day before, I assume after 4pm (my assumption).

She also says that white tablecloth is not good, cause all trays are white. I am like "i couldn't find one for the budget, the size of the table etc, in that shade of pink sweetie", but she is like "try to find it though". Great, I won't find, nevermind.... I searched online a whole nite, not sleeping but she won't know this,..

One of my friends asks me can she bring her relative that is visiting her, I say of course you can!

2 days before, Anna says, you know don't invite anyone outside the group(which I don't know of) ..aka don't invite the relative of this friend because some of the girls are very shy and won't play the games or dance...or feel comfortable. I disagree on that, but I send this friend with the relative over a voice text, and explain that there are ladies that won't feel comfortable...so this friend is like okay, then I am not coming at all.

So, I unintentionally hurt her.

Then Anna texts me, "I cannot come to late to decorate because my husband is home at 4pm so has to be before. On the same day I cannot do it, cause I have to take my husband to the airport".

I am so upset already because I just spoke with my other friend and she won't come (to spend time not with me or Anna, but the mom to be).

So, I voice text my sister in law, telling her, " can you tell Anna I cannot come at 1pm when she wants because I have things to do? I can bring all the decoration (that I bought) to you and you do it with her."

(By chance I found out I do have to attend a virtual meeting just before 1pm for my nephew's online school).

Then, my sister says okay, I will tell her not to come.

Then Anna calls me, I don't pick up, she leaves a voice text,saying," you do everything by yourself, you didn't say before anything on that you cannot come at 1pm. It is so ugly from your side, I just wanted to help, after buying all the stuff to make the sweets, why you didn't say from beginning that you want to decorate by yourself and you don't want me to help? You cannot do this to people, it's very ugly, anyway I will go on wednewday but you do everything you want, games, sweets, I will bring what I have dine so far, I will never help and do this for anyone..."

So, I did not tell anyone I want to decorate by myself, but O was having ideas on decoration that I exposed to her, because I can have my opinion, right? In the end I still always came to her, okay, however you think, you have the experience....

But I just wanted to have a voice in what color palette or way of putting things together, not to go mine and just my way, rather a mix of what we together think.

My sister in law told anna " don't come because she and I will make it," or some variation on this.

Where I was wrong, I should have told her myself I cannot come that time? Now she won't answer or read a text from me...

And I don't feel good ,cannot eat because things are stirred up like this...

I should not have insisted on bb shower...where I was and am wrong, what to do?

I feel so down...(other things in my life too, plus period coming soon). I don't even want to do any bb shower, I came out as a villain in all this.

Though my sister in law, says, forget about her, we will do it how we can.

(Anna has an influence on many in the group of friends)(like 13 friends maybe,,,to give you an idea)

Thank you to who had the patience to go through all the story, and say a word on it.