Met with my fiancé’s pastor last night to discuss officiating our wedding. Went great until he required I convert to Christianity before we marry. He only mentioned it because he said it could bring up problems for us in the future. Like my fiancé and I haven’t discussed possibilities like that.

It honestly really hurt and I felt very rejected. Was worried my fiancé would leave me now because the pastor basically advised it. We both cried though, a lot. He was surprised he turned us down like that and didn’t think it was realistic to expect that from me too. My fiancé hopes for me to eventually believe and be accepted into heaven only so we can spend eternity together. I think it’s incredibly sweet but I don’t think I’d be a believer any time soon. I’m simply not religious or set to one religion. I’m open to all and that should be okay. If I can accept him he should accept me. If anything god gave me this perspective and doesn’t expect me to devote my entire life to him.

Anyways my fiancé and I are most definitely still getting married at the date we set, about 80 days from now. We’re gonna find someone better to officiate us. Has anyone gone through this and can give us some advice??

Please don’t say the pastor is right and couples should ONLY be equally yoked cuz it’s just not true, even my fiancé said Christians shouldn’t have to follow that because it’s a part of things that no longer apply to society.

***the assurance from you all really helped me to feel more secure in this. I was ultimately just afraid he’d resent me or I’d be hurting him. We discussed this for hours last night. He can live with me never converting but still hopes I do someday and that’s just how it is for him. We talked about kids and I’m perfectly okay raising them Christian because I know someday they can choose to keep that faith or explore others such as I do. We’ve compromised and are happy with participating in each other’s beliefs or at least accepting them. I’m committed to my partner, we both see us being together the rest of our lives no matter what’s thrown at us. Everyone had a hard year and everything that could stress our relationship happened in a short time frame but we always come out stronger and closer. Wish people would stop asking if we’re sure and telling us how to do things though