My son has always had some pretty big tantrums since he was about 1.5. He used to freak out and bash his head off the floor. Which I was informed was normal for toddler tantrums..(still scared me)

Now that he’s almost 3 some of his tantrums lately have been really big. He SCREAMS as hard and loud as he can over and over. Hits us, throws things. Just loses it and it’s impossible to calm him down for a bit.

Tonight he was mad because he couldn’t have his sisters birthday cake after we had just put candles in. So he was having a fit, and went to hit his dad telling him to get out of the kitchen(so he could get the cake) and he told him not to hit him, tried to talk him down and he turned around and grabbed a water bottle and a toy and hit him pretty hard in the hand. So I was like okay you need to go calm down for a minute. Put him in his room(I stayed outside of it) and he proceeded to scream at the top of his lungs and start throwing things around. When I opened the door I tried to explain to him that that isn’t nice to hit and also that he can’t be throwing things or he could break something or hurt someone. Then I asked him to pick up some trucks that he threw on the floor and he just kept saying “no”. Told him I would help and he just said no and ran out of the room.

I literally feel like I have no control over him.

I also have a 1.5 year old and 6 year old(girls) and they aren’t like this at all.

He was born 6 weeks early so I don’t know if that has something to do with it. He otherwise has developed great, he talks a lot, knows all his abcs, colours, can count to at least 12.

There is also other times when without any trigger he’ll just be mean. Like, 50-60% of the time when we see my mom, she’ll be excited and say “hiii how are you?” And he’s just like “no grandma” lol I’m starting to feel so bad about it. He’ll also hit her if she persists on trying to talk to him. Other times he’ll be happy to see her and be super sweet.

We’re also having problems with him being aggressive to his 1.5 year old sister. She can’t touch anything, even if he wasn’t anywhere near it, without him going over and pushing her, sometimes hitting her. Today he left a pretty good bite mark in the middle of her back.

I know after reading all that(and if you’ve read this far, thank you 🙏) you might find it hard to believe he is a really sweet boy when he wants to be, he can be caring, a jokester and loves to help.

But these episodes and attitude worries me. And the fact that he is so hard to get out of it or calm down.. Please tell me he’ll grow out of it 😔 or is this something I should go to the doctor about?