TTC @ 45... What do I ask my GP/Doctor?

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Hey everyone, so I'm about to book a doctors appointment to discuss TTC at 45 (my partner is 30).
We've had no success for 7 months - I've had a couple of really late periods and nothing more. Tracking OPK & BBT, taking Pregnacare supplements... 
What other supplements do you guys swear by?
What are the main things I should be asking?
I'm terrified that I'll get frowned upon or looked down upon... I've never considered having a family until I met my current partner, but I don't want to have to deal with being judged as well as the stresses of TTC...
Any advice is greatly appreciated. 💗

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We have patient who had baby at 51 and there is nothing to be ashamed of.

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There’s nothing to be ashamed of! You weren’t ready until you were ready. I had my first baby at 41, and we are now trying again at 44. Have bloodwork done to check your numbers for hormones also. Good luck!

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Don't be ashamed its difficult when we feel were being judged but you are ok and if you do not like something tell them. From my experience some GP take a blanket approach always assuming the obvious your older so this is going to be difficult. I am 42 and the way some speak you would think you should throw the towel in, don't use your intuition and follow your heart. Meditation yoga eating good food and taking supplements helps. When I first started this journey my FSH was high I got it down to 6.2 from 12.6 so get your levels checked but regardless just go with the journey keep yourself informed and do what feels right. Sending baby dust your way 💓 and just to add I have 2 aunts and 2 grandmothers who had babies ranging from 42-47 yr old. That's something I hold on to when I feel like giving up.

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I hear you and feel your pain. You are not alone. I am 48 and feel judged every time I get blood drawn or go for ultrasound. It is a rough journey. I took lots of supplements, tried acupuncture, but nothing worked for me. In general I would say stay healthy, exercise, eat right, get your vitamin D and TSH checked and also check FSh and if it is high ask your physician what you can do to lower. I used birth control pills for some days to lower FSH and it worked with lowering it, but no baby yet. Good luck!

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First try to find someone who cares about what you want and actually listens. I'm 42 and trying for one more baby with my husband after  having my first baby at 39. Nothing wrong or shameful about wanting to be a mom. I had a miscarriage at less than 7 weeks last June 2020 and found the fertility specialist to be cold and focused on making as much money as possible from each visit versus my ob-gyn who has always been kind and obviously cares because she allows time for questions. In terms of supplements I was advised to take Ubiquinol 400 mg daily in additional to prenatal but check to see what your dr recommends.  Finally you may want to review with the doctor what you are currently doing to conceive and discuss their recommendations for best plan moving forward (such as shouid you use opk kits or have sex every other day in fertile week etc) good luck to you!

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Go for it mama! What matters is you’re ready now! I’m 45 too, my husband is 39 and we weren’t going to have kids at first. Almost 3 years ago we pulled a 180 and started trying. After 6 months got fertility help. I just wished earlier they checked my thyroid levels and if my tubes were open right away because they ended up causing some delays. Now tubes are open and thyroid is under control the last few months and we’re on IUI #2. Age isn’t as much a factor as health. In our case all other areas we are healthy and my ovarian reserve is super high. Wishing you the best in outcomes!

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I was 43 in January, Hubby will be 39 in June and we are trying too. I am taking iron free supplement due to blood disease. Try not to stress over it. Good luck! 🥰🤞👍

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It’s your life! Love it. Live it! Don’t let anybody look down on you for it. If you want to conceive a child, who is the product of your love, that’s nobody else’s business.

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So, just back from my appointment with the nurse who says she's going to get me back in for blood work and hormone levels etc etc, and we reviewed my cycle using the GLOW data - she reckons I'm more than capable of a natural conception! If anything, it's a the very least made me smile and feel positive and hopeful! 😃💗

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TTC @ 45... What do I ask my GP/Doctor?

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