Update; they’re calling dhs on me 🙃🥴

Update: We still have strep, and Dr today said she believes we also have upper respiratory infections and the kids have ear infections. So I made the right decision by not taking my child to Easter. My mom was like “I’d send that to them, that’s not okay for them to treat you like that”....but I don’t feel like I owe them any explanation or validation or anything. I’m just thankful I trusted my gut and didn’t go, because an upper respiratory infection can kill someone, especially a baby that just left NICU and an elderly person with health issues. As for the pedo husband and them mad because I told on him and them disowning me and my kids for that....I’m actually feeling a lot better and I’m happy they are out of my life. Here’s to 2021, taking no bullshit from anyone and finally being ballsy enough to stand on my own. Even if they are the ones who made me do it, I’m doing it.

I’ve posted here before, I asked about Easter, some of ya’ll will recognize this post:

This is an update but also...a new situation?

For those that don’t know, I was se*ually abused as a kid. My family chose to protect him and outcast me. I’ve been alone ever since, raising my kids without my family. My abuser died in December; my family and I tried to make it work again.

The abusers wife (my dads mom) refuses to acknowledge me, but will act like a #1 family member on fb when it comes to my kids. My kids have NEVER met her. My dad asked me to come to Easter at her house, where the abuse happened. I expressed my concerns and hesitation. He told me to get over it and either come or don’t but not to ruin his plans. His mother (the abusers wife) made very clear I wasn’t welcome.

Weird twist, I’m trying to figure out how to tell them I’m not coming without being rude, my daughter tested + for strep this morning at the urgent care. I told them because of this, we weren’t coming. My sister threatened to stop by my house to see if she was actually sick. I told her she was not welcome and I don’t think it was a smart idea because she has a premie baby who just got out of NICU; why would you want to expose her to that?

I had already made Easter plans with my best friend months back for today (not Easter Sunday) and I cancelled with her too explaining why. She tells me her kid is sick too, she’s going to the doctor too today and that if they have the same thing, to just come on over. By canceling it would ruin the other kids Easter (we both have multiples kids). Guess what? Our kids are around each other all the time and no shocker, her kid has strep too. So we go on over today. My kid lays down, naps, takes some medicine and she wanted to get up and play. So I took some pics and posted them on Facebook.

My sister comments how I’m faking my kids illness and I’m a liar. I explain to them I’m not and the situation. Her and my dads mom don’t care, they start calling me a bad mom and I’m 2 face and I deserve no respect, they feel bad for my kids, how I love one kid more than the other, absolutely ridiculous stuff.

They even took it to our group chat. My dads mom, is going off on me so I told her she had no place when she stood by her ped*phile husband. She told me I’ll burn in hell, that I’m a wh*re, that she’s calling Dhs on me, all kinds of vile shit. Just a giant shit show. Negativity and stuff I don’t need. My sister told our parents a few months back That it happened to her too and that she was scared to tell the truth because of how I was treated, she didn’t want that. But she told my dads mom tonight that I threatened her and forced her to say that...like what?! I live hours away and haven’t seen her in over a year! How and when? She refused to respond after that.

I blocked my sister, “my grandmother”

, my cousins, and my parents. Because I know they will side with them. A lot of people saw our Facebook drama and asked me why my sister would do that. Accuse me of lying and then when I call her out for doing that she says I’m a liar and overreacting and she genuinely cared...total manipulation and narcissistic behavior. I’ve been getting therapy for years, my therapist has warned me of this behavior of years. Sadly I ignored her warnings and gave them another chance. Now I’m stressing about dhs being called on me, for simply telling a woman that her husband did that to me as a child and that she needs to wake up and stop protecting him. Im a good mom, but dhs can be monsters and I don’t need that stress.

Sorry I just needed to vent and let y’all know I won’t be going. I’ve been crying all night because...I’m dumb enough to get back in this mess and now my kids will be affected by it. My sister and “grandmother” told my mom that they were calling dhs on me because my 5 year old isn’t in school. During covid. She’s does online homeschool. They don’t know that because they aren’t involved enough to know. She’s also in pre-k and our state doesn’t even require you to take pre-k. If anything dhs is gonna be happy I’m making sure In school even when she’s not required to be.

These are a few of our messages. Everything I said is in the messages, I had to crop out a few things she said because I don’t want to get banned or anything. Names are marked out for privacy. I’m blue, she’s Grey. She’s 60, I’m 24. I can admit that I could have been more mature. When I say blank speak up, I’m speaking to my sister.