Long story ! Where do I began... I’m now 19 weeks pregnant, my boyfriend and I hid our pregnancy for the first 8 weeks. My boyfriend was finally ready to tell his mother and I agreed under one condition which was to keep our pregnancy private and off of social media. She was very excited and agreed not to tell anyone else or post about it on social media. Yet 3 days later she told everyone in our small town, and all of her family members; after doing so she said to me “I hope you don’t mind”. I was beyond livid and told my boyfriend he needed to speak to her about it and she said it wasn’t that big of a deal. Which it is that big of a deal because I wanted to have the joy of announcing my pregnancy when I was ready to, she completely took that chance from me. A few weeks later I found out she’s been telling everyone every aspect of the issues I’ve had since I’ve been pregnant. As far as morning sickness, constipation, hospital visits, changes in my due date, and even my birth plan. I feel as though that’s information that should be kept private and not all over town, if I wanted to talk about it I would but that’s not her place to do so. She also texts MY family members everyday to “update” them on my pregnancy which is what I should be doing, but instead I never have the chance to tell them anything because she tries to beat me to it. Which again is not her place its MY FAMILY nor does she know what I go through daily! What’s putting me on edge is shes the only one who hasn’t given me or my boyfriend any thing for the baby. Everything she bought has been for her to keep at her place, which I never agreed to just hand my baby over to her because I will be a stay at home mom I don’t need a babysitter. She literally has a full blown nursery, co-sleeper, bottles, pacifiers, clothes, a bouncer.. etc ! Which I don’t understand what it’s for because this isn’t her baby. She sends me a picture of everything she buys as if she’s trying to compete with me on who buys the most/better stuff. Saying that it’s for her to use when she has the baby so she hopes we buy our own. I’m due September 20 and her birthday is September 27 mines is September 30, she expects me to hand my baby over to her for her birthday to spend the night as a gift to her and also told me she’ll have him on my birthday so I can have a break and enjoy myself, I’ve never agreed to any of that. I’m not handing over a few day old baby to anyone. Plus she has 5 dogs and my entire family is allergic to dogs including me which could also affect my baby and she refuses to get rid of them because nobody tells her what to do and she’ll have them around her grandchild if she wants knowing the baby could possibly be allergic. How do I politely tell her she’s crossed one to many boundaries?