How often do you guys have sex?

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Sorry to be so crude 
I just feel so exhausted from dealing with house work, child care, work work, money, etc. 
By the end of the day I just get so tired and just want to sleep. 
I’ll try and stay up later to spend time with my boyfriend, but then I have to wake up with our son in the morning. 
Then I started feeling more pressure to have sex and it made me want it even less. 
I recently caught my boyfriend on a hookup app sending pictures of himself to other people on a night that we fought because we planned to have sex, but our son didn’t sleep until 11 pm and I was tired and wanted to go to sleep. 
He tells me i need to accept some responsibility  because I make him miserable and I don’t want him like he wants me and he’s not happy. 
I’ve asked him to move out, and have told him I don’t want to be with him anymore. But I’m just having a really hard time with this and am having a hard time convincing myself that I’m making the right decision

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“He tells me I need to accept some responsibility because I make him miserable...”
Run. Run fucking fast and far. This is not a partner and sex is not a weapon to manipulate your spouse into believing SHE is the reason he’s disgusting. 
My husband and I barely have sex and we SHARE the workload around the house. I cook, he does the dishes. I tidy the house, he does the laundry. We split duties for scrub cleaning days. When he gets home he takes over most of the parenting duties for our daughter. If he sees me visibly overwhelmed or tired, he sits and listens to me and asks what he can do to help. Men like that exist and I’m grateful every day I finally balled up and left my abusive and toxic ex who sent D pics to other women. Had secret dating app accounts. Took his ring off when he left the house. Cheated on my at 9 months pregnant AND while I sat alone in the hospital as the doctors told me our son would likely not survive the night. He used to make me believe I was worthless and if I left no one else would ever “put up” with me. I was responsible for literally everything then it was my fault he was unhappy because I wasn’t young and fun and lively anymore because at the tender age of fucking 20, I burnt out from being so anxious and overwhelmed. 
Men like that are trash and you deserve better. No one, not one person at all, ever deserved to be spoken to or treated in that manner.

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Tell him he needs to take responsibility for his child then and help out when baby won’t sleep. He wants sex then he needs to help you in other ways so you’re not exhausted. It’s not your fault he chose to be unfaithful and be on a hookup app. You did the right thing, he needs to be accountable and step up and help, none of this was your fault.

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We have a set day and time once a week we always have sex anything else is bonus. But if we don’t schedule it it doesn’t happen. It’s not spontaneous like it used to be but it works 😊

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Moving all other things aside for the moment. What he did was WRONG. No reason will excuse that. None. Being in your shoes I would have also kicked him out. That trust is broken.
I totally get your feelings about just being exhausted, not only physically but also mentally. People who care about their relationship and want it to work don't go looking for satisfaction on dating apps. Don't doubt your decision, I hope you have family and friends to support you through this.

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I’m so sorry mama. Him being open and communicating to you about what he needs is okay, but sending crude pictures to others is NOT no matter what the circumstances are and you deserve so much better! You hold no accountability in that. Him trying to place some blame on you is sooo not okay.
My boyfriend works usually 60+ hours a week so when he gets home he’s usually very tired as am I lol. We would go weeks sometimes without it and we knew we had to put in more effort. Now on weekends we put in the effort and spend quality time with one another along with sex. Sometimes, I know I have to be the one to initiate it too.

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Hahaha sex? What’s sex? LOL

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To answer the question part I haven’t had sex in over a year. I’ve never been a sexual person after when I was younger being told that’s all I’d ever be good for so I don’t enjoy it it does nothing for me it’s more of a turn off to me. Other than that to the rest of the post happy you told him to move out that app thing would make me so angry!

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0 times. I wish I actually could say a number. We haven’t had sex in 6+months unfortunately :/.

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I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I am glad you were open about your feelings though. I think it’s very common to feel that way when you are parents and working. We have sex 2-3 times a week, sometimes more sometimes less. However, most of the time it is me initiating it because my husband is just way too tired. He only sleeps from 11pm-5am Monday-Saturday so I understand him. As for me, I try not to take it personal but sometimes it hurts to see that as soon as we hit the bed he’s snoring. We don’t do date nights, but I really think they help a lot of couples!! We may start now that we are living around so much family.

How often do you guys have sex?

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