Wanting to hire help for disabled husband but husband doesn't want it

My husband was injured at work and left wheelchair bound. It's all been a big adjustment and we have a 2 month old colicky baby. My husband got a good settlement but it will only last us so long with all our bills so I'm gonna have to get a job soon. It's already hard taking care of our baby and my husband. I'm exhausted! Plus having to find a job now. It's all so much! My mom recommended hiring help and even gave me a ladies number that is pretty affordable. I told my husband and he got MAD. He is completely against it because he doesn't want someone seeing him so vulnerable. He doesn't want someone bathing him and he has to use adult diapers and he doesn't want someone changing him. He's already embarrassed that I have to do all that and do everything for him, and he doesn't want a stranger to do those things. I want to be respectful of his wishes but this is so hard for me. I'm so exhausted, looking for work and I would think he would want to make my life easier!