Am I wrong to ask him to find somewhere else to stay?

My fiancé told me last night that he told his friend he could spend the night at our house on Friday. However my fiancé works night shift and is working that night, so he won’t be here. I’m home alone at nights with our young baby (9 weeks). I’m still getting caught up on cleaning and between the baby, our 2 dogs and cats, and my fiancé barely helping with cleaning, I’m not up for having a house guest. The only people we’ve had over at this point is close friends and family and people that are okay helping out if needed/don’t need to be entertained. Our guest room isn’t even ready so that would be another chore on my already overpacked schedule.

I don’t want to be rude or inhospitable to his friend, but the idea of him being here overnight while I’m here with my baby and breastfeeding just makes me uncomfortable. I don’t think anything bad about the guy, but he had come over the day we’d gotten home from the hospital. He lives 2 hours away but had been in town for work so decided to just “drop by” and hang out as he had some free time (my fiancé didn’t care at all). It had been really uncomfortable then bc like we’d *just* gotten home from the hospital, hadn’t even had a chance to settle in, and then there was a friend of my fiancé’s just hanging out in our house. He wasn’t interested in the baby at all either so it wasn’t like how excitement got in the way, it just was more so awkward for me. He stops by often when he’s in town for work (usually about once a month) to hang out with my fiancé, but I felt like it should have been obvious that wasn’t a good weekend to stop by.

Anyway, his friend is trying to get hired by the city where my fiancé works as a first responder, and has a test to take the following morning, so my fiancé told him he could just stay here instead of driving in the morning of.

When I asked my fiancé if there was anywhere else he could sty bc I really wasn’t comfortable with the idea, he got upset and basically told me I’m being a jerk (mind you he doesn’t ever like the idea of even my family come over or spending the night saying it’s “uncomfortable” so I really don’t think it’s unfair).

He keeps asking me “where am I supposed to tell him to go?” and I don’t know what to say, but I was bothered he told him he could stay here in the first place. (He did this once before when I was pregnant and promised he wouldn’t do it again, but he was home that time so I feel like this is m different and kinda worse).

Update: I haven’t brought his friend staying over again - I left it at telling him that I was uncomfortable with it and we haven’t discussed it further. I’m not going to force him to do anything, but actions speak louder than words - if he chooses to still have his friend stay over knowing I’m uncomfortable, that tells me what I need to know.

As for cleaning - we’d had this talk when I was pregnant and he started helping out more. When we were on maternity/paternity leave together (he was off for a month) he was a big help, but had more time to relax too. I think now that he’s back to work he got into a habit of having that time to relax regularly which is why he’s slacked off and stopped helping out regularly. I don’t want to say he’s lazy, bc he’s a first responder and it’s a high stress job, so I understand needing to relax. But I do need him to put some effort in, as that’s part of being an adult, partner, and especially now parent.

I think it’s just a growing and learning curve for both of us. I’m hoping he did tell the friend I was uncomfortable with it, and he can either stay at an Airbnb/hotel or drive in the morning of. (He’s 2 hours away - he wouldn’t have to get up horribly early). If so, I’m hoping having that awkward conversation of uninviting him will be enough to think twice before inviting houseguests without talking to me first. If he didn’t, and chooses to let me be uncomfortable, then we’re gonna have a whole new set of problems that I don’t know are reparable. Really hoping he chose right - we’ll see tonight I guess!

Update #2: neither of us brought it up again, so apparently he did talk to his friend and let him know he couldn’t spend the night. Huge relief, both bc today the baby was eating all day aside from 2 brief naps, and spat up several times, so I got next to nothing else done today - but also bc it means it was a lapse in judgement and he cared that i would be uncomfortable. He also didn’t bring it up again to try to change my mind which generally means he knows he was in the wrong.