Hi ladies, I hope you are all having a nice Mother’s Day! Sorry for the long post, but I just had to vent to someone.

Today was supposed to be my pregnancy reveal to close family at 16 weeks. Due to a previous loss, my husband and I have been very hesitant to share our news other than to our parents, but decided Mothers Day would be a good time. Most of our family lives abroad and so we don’t have the chance to do an in person announcement/reveal for most relatives.

The only family closeby is my aunt and uncle and two cousins. I am very close with them…grew up in their house for a few years and my cousins are more like siblings to me. I planned the perfect gifts and way to announce for weeks as we always meet on Mother’s Day. We recently found out my cousins weren’t able to get vaccinated on time and I anyway had a bout of sickness today. My husband is two hours away checking up on my in laws who were recently unwell. So we decided my mom would go to their house by herself.

I prepped my mom in advance to video call my husband and I from there and then hand out our gifts so we can see everyone’s reaction as they open and find out I’m pregnant! She knew this reveal was important for us as we couldn’t do one for anyone else and knowing we haven’t seen uncle’s family since Christmas. She knows I’m all alone at home right now and both husband and I I are bummed we can’t be there in person. When she got there, I reminded her to call us soon and she said to wait as she gathers everyone. So I wait for her call. 10’min later my cousin texts me congratulations. I’m like ??? So I call my mom and ask her what is happening and turns out she gave them the gifts herself and didn’t even bother looping my husband or myself in. She didn’t even bother to tell me they now know. I’m livid…that moment I had been looking forward to for so long is just GONE.

This is also the first grandchild in the family and while it’s natural for my mom to be excited, she literally cut out the two people who are creating this child. Am I wrong to be upset about this??? Right now I’m so angry I can’t even stand to talk to her or look at her. My husband is upset too but he’s just trying to make me feel better.

Edit: forgot to add that I told her I was upset and she just said “sorry” and immediately asked if she can now tell my other uncle in India. I was literally speechless.