Being the second baby mom...

Okay, to start I didn’t just get pregnant with some asshole. We were engaged, owned a house, together for 4 years and TTC for an entire year prior to me becoming pregnant. We had a life plan and I was supposed to spend it with him. He did a 360 on me and started cheating, being an asshole to me, his son (from previous relationship) and just made my life hell. I begged, cried, pleaded for him to talk to someone for us to talk to someone and for him to stop doing this shit. Nothing worked, I waited 2 years, I tried my absolute best to make it work but it didn’t. I left him over a year ago, his son is 10 our daughters 3. He’s always been a good dad despite him being a dick sometimes... he was always there, every baseball game, soccer game, school events, first days of schools, he was and is a very involved dad. He pays his $700 in child support, he pays for the extra curricular activities, school essentials, clothes. He will get his son anything he needs if his ex asks. He’s gone and taken her places when her car was broke down or grabbed her stuff she needed... you get the jyst of it. His ex is a little nasty and I was the reason they were able to be civil because to me that’s what was most important for the son they shared. In the beginning of our relationship she was just the worst to me, it was hell. After about 2 years she settled down, I was always very nice to her even when she was mean. We became civil and would chat at drop offs and pick ups or family meetings regarding the son.

Now that I’m on the receiving end of it I can say I’m in awe. He’s the worst to deal with, he can’t commit to seeing his daughter, he won’t give child support (waiting on court) I even reasoned and said I don’t need support if you could help with daycare and diapers here and there but everything is just a fight with this guy. I say left, he goes right type of situation. He goes out of his way to make my life hell. It sucks and it really upsets me. Putting aside the financial aspect I feel sad for our daughter because he just doesn’t care! It’s just so frustrating, I try to be so nice and easy going! I just don’t understand why he can be so great for his son and just could careless about our daughter and I’m going to be honest, I’m a bit jealous because I want nothing but to co parent and raise our beautiful baby girl together! I want her to have a dad and I don’t want her growing up with two parents that are shitty to each other.