Anybody married and don’t do oral?

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Me and my husband have been together for 7 years. I give him blow jobs but he’s only gone down on me like 3 times. Which is a little disappointing because it’s something I really like... He’s the only guy I’ve been with that doesn’t do it. I also think I’m only like his second real relationship and we got together kind of young so I don’t think he has a lot of experience so idk if that’s why or what. I take care of myself so I know that’s not an issue. Tonight he got drunk and started talking about doing it and when it came down to it he didn’t. Kind of just curious if anyone else doesn’t get it.

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Easy if he doesn't go down on you you Don't go down on him anymore unless he dose you first.

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Reciprocity is a must. 
Definitely talk about it if nothing comes of it then don’t suck dick no more. Shit I would save my jaw for food. 
Fuck that.

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I personally would not have married my husband if he doesn’t give oral 
It’s a must have for my relationship because I don’t get off from sex. Only oral or hand. So for me I need that and wouldn’t settle for a marriage where I am unsatisfied

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I wouldn’t do it if he wasn’t willing to reciprocate 🤷🏻‍♀️. You’ve been together for a long time now. Be honest and direct and talk to him. No, I can’t relate to this.

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Some of these replies really are in a grey area...
If its something he's not comfortable doing- he doesn't have to do it. If he's willing to explore then let him, but you can't force someone to do a sex act on you. 
If you don't feel comfortable doing oral with him if he doesn't reciprocate then that's understandable, but if you stop doing oral for leverage or to manipulate him into giving you oral, that's wrong.
Maybe talk to him on what you want from your sex life, let him tell you what he feels comfortable with, why he doesn't do oral very often and go from there. I mentioned to my partner that I would like him to do more oral and he admitted he avoids it because he doesn't really know how. I'm not hugely experienced in receiving oral so I didn't know what I liked, so we googled tips of how to give good oral and tried it out - we worked out what worked for me and what didn't, and now he's much more comfortable and actively wants to pretty much every time we have sex.

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We don’t do that because neither one of us is into that but if it’s something you want, you should sit down with him and explain that to him.

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My husband  doesn't like giving it so I don't push him while I very much enjoy it. To me it's a matter of respect and consent. He doesn't  want to do something sexual so I respect  his wishes and don't try to make him do anything he doesn't like or is uncomfortable with. I don't  with hold anything from him because of it. I don't mind giving oral and he enjoys receiving so to "punish " him for his lack of desire/enjoyment of giving oral doesn't sit right with me.

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I think that deserves a bit of a discussion. Maybe you voicing your concerns will have him open up and then you’ll find out why he isn’t quick to reciprocate

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He’s probably insecure in that area. He probably over thinks it and doesn’t think he’s any good so that could be one reason he doesn’t even try. Sometimes guiding in a ‘sexy’ way could help. So where it doesn’t seem like you’re teaching him and more like you’re enjoying it that much. Lol I don’t know if that makes sense😂

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Discuss it. Maybe if you both shower or something before he’ll feel more comfortable

Anybody married and don’t do oral?

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