I’m struggling really hard to be a submissive wife to my husband. My husband is often unsure of himself and sometimes treat me like his mom. In most cases I am the one to take responsibility for things. He has angry outbursts and I’m the one to calm him down. If I ever get upset she doesn’t not know how to comfort me. I want to follow his decisions but his decisions are really selfish. He wants to work more so that he can give himself money. We both work and I put up everything because he doesn’t believe in a savings account so I build up the savings and some of the checking each month. He has a separate bank where he gets his direct deposit to and he pulls out of that account to put up for some bills. In the beginning of this relationship I selflessly carried us both. When he decided he wanted to stop working to do work on something else, I foolishly let him run the savings I built up down to just a few hundred. He promised to repay it but he lies. He makes decisions based on emotions and changes his mind almost everyday. It’s a lot to keep up with. It is so hard to be submissive to a man who is living like he is a teenager. On top of that he is very unloving when he is upset. Even if he is upset with someone else he will take it out on me. We could go to marriage counseling but he is so money hungry he wouldn’t allow us. And if I pay for it we won’t have a savings fund at all because he doesn’t believe in that.