Do I tell my family I am eloping?

My relationship with my family in the past was extremely close but over the past few months we had gone through some stuff that is causing us not to communicate. My fiancé and I did want a big wedding but with all of the arguing we decided that we needed to separate ourselves from his family and mine. Our relationship was struggling because of our families meddling into our relationship. I would want me family there but at the same time I would want us to have the day for just the two of us without any arguing or passive aggressive comments. My parents would freak out and make comments about why I went behind their back or not even bothering to tell them about the elopement, I know they will be upset and hurt but I would just want our day to be about us. I need help.